Hard Therapy, Good Visit

Therapy. It wasn’t good, but I’m of the opinion that hard therapy is better than ho-hum, nothing happens therapy. I don’t want to drive 360 miles and have it all be flat.

So, that’s what I got – a hard therapy session with Dimples. The visit went well until we talked about things that truly matter, then it was just too much and all of the defenses shot up.  Being one of the siblings seems to feel okay (at least with the big kids), but being a daughter and  having parents is unbearable.

A benefit of visits is that Dimples’ therapist can see her interact with us. It’s one thing for me to describe what life has been like, and another thing for her to witness a glimpse of it. She can’t really help Dimples if she doesn’t observe the challenges. So, all in all, it was good.

After therapy, Hannah and Isaiah joined us at the school building for lunch with Dimples and all of the kids. Then we went outside and I took a few pictures of the three of them together before we headed back to the cottage. We sang and played Uno until Noah and Katie arrived – then we sang and played Uno some more.

At 1:30 we said our goodbyes with hugs and kisses; a feeling of sadness surrounded us. Back in the car, we talked a little bit about how Dimples seemed to the older kids who haven’t seen her since January. Fortunately, it was a good visit for all of them.

Singing Wagon Wheel and Here I am to Worship with Dimples, and lots of laughter over Draw 4 Uno cards, will hold me over and sustain my hope for a little while.

Happy Friday, friends.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

14 Comments

  1. Jennifer Litz Seivert
    May 31, 2013

    I always celebrate when one of my kids acts up in front of their therapists or the psychiatrist because then they know that I am not just blowing smoke when I describe how hard it can be at times. Yes there are sweet moments in our life but there are also so really hard times and for people who have not walked on this journey, they struggle to get IT.

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  2. Chantelle
    May 31, 2013

    (((hug)))

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  3. Michelle Cody McGee
    May 31, 2013

    Progress comes through hard work! Praying for you all…

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  4. Kathy
    May 31, 2013

    Thanks for the updates. If you don't mind me asking, did you ever post on the cost for this kind of help? I know a few families that could really benefit. We were never able to afford most therapeutic places due to costs ranging from $6,000-10+ a month. I would like to be able to provide them with affordable options. Thanks.

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  5. Rosemary Baisch Dunkle
    May 31, 2013

    Hard. HUG!

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  6. Shonni
    May 31, 2013

    Thank you for sharing this journey!

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  7. Suzy Vanderkarr
    May 31, 2013

    sweet post….I am praying for you and your dimples today

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  8. Emily
    May 31, 2013

    Love this picture. Hugs to Hannah, Katie, Noah, and Isaiah. And you!

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  9. Atalie Simpson
    May 31, 2013

    oh that precious girl! lifting her up in prayer always!

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  10. Leese
    May 31, 2013

    Thanks for the update! I'm glad that, on the whole, there were a number of positives/encouraging bits. And that the interaction in front of the therapist happened so hopefully that will allow her to better know how to work with Dimples.

    Prayers continue!

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  11. Maple Walnut Mama
    May 31, 2013

    "being a daughter and having parents is unbearable" – My prayers are with you, your family and with Dimples. May she let herself be a daughter again someday.

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  12. Kris
    June 1, 2013

    Praying and praying for healing. That Dimples will allow herself to feel loved and beloved. That she will know how truly loved she is by your famiy and by God. That she will know she is wonderfully, perfectly made and that all that she has gone through is part of His plan for her and that He will make it for good. I pray this so deeply for your family and for Dimples. Look at all the love He is pouring into her that she doesn't even know. You do not need to know where the journey ends, God already does. He just needs you to take the next step in obedience. Our family is praying for your family.

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  13. Sadee
    June 5, 2013

    I know you may not always feel brave, but I think you are so, so brave to keep trusting Jesus and to keep reaching out. I admire you so much, Lisa. And I am learning so much from your journey. Thank you so much for being brave enough to share your journey with all of us.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      June 5, 2013

      Thank you, Sadee. You have encouraged me this morning – and I kind of needed it.

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