Giving Children Choices [Video]

Hello friends,

I have a new Live video up on my Facebook page! This is so much fun.

In this short video, I demonstrate how I give choices to my children. If you find it helpful, please click on the Share button at the bottom of the post. Help me spread the word and share the love.

I would love to hear your thoughts. Also, please let me know if there are topics you would like me to discuss or questions I can answer in my videos.

With courage and hope for the journey,

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

9 Comments

  1. Molly Kitsmiller
    January 17, 2018

    Do we always have to give choices? Can the choice be a choice of where to eat the snack instead of what snack to have?

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      January 18, 2018

      We don’t always have to offer choices, and it can be any kind of choice, not necessarily the food options e.g. would you like to eat your sandwich at the table or at the kitchen counter? So much depends on the child – their history, personality, etc. We know our own kids and when a choice might help them feel more relaxed and relieve some of their fear.

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  2. Shannon
    January 18, 2018

    So helpful, thank you!

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  3. Regan Garner
    January 19, 2018

    I’m kind of bummed. Your blog has been my go-to place at night when sleep alludes me (your insights & encouragement are a welcome reprieve to the thoughts swimming around my brain). But since it’s night time, listening to your live posts isn’t an option. Miss reading your words but excited you found an outlet you enjoy.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      January 19, 2018

      Regan, I know those late night hours and need for connection. I won’t quit writing, I’ve just felt busy and scattered lately and writing takes a huge amount of concentration. I have so many posts I’ve started and not finished but saved for later; I’ll get back to them. Do you subscribe to my newsletter? There is a link in the sidebar. Thanks for the reminder that written words are needed too.

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      1. Regan Garner
        January 19, 2018

        Yes, I am subscribed to your newsletter. Your comment related to feedback being food to the blogger gave me courage to say something. Thanks for understanding. Blessings to you during these busy, scattered days. May you find peace for your thoughts & rest for your soul, even if it comes one deep breath at a time.

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        1. Lisa Qualls
          January 20, 2018

          I appreciate that, Regan. I just scheduled a post for Monday – thanks for the prompt.

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  4. Charlene Williams
    January 20, 2018

    Lisa, I am not often on facebook during the day but I enjoy watching your videos after the fact. I love what you said about getting your thoughts in the right place. I always try to remember that Behavior, Thoughts, Feelings, are a triangle. If we change one corner of the triangle for the better, it changes each piece. Sometimes that helps me to not feel I need to change everything all at once. Tweaking one area, being intentional about gratitude or taking thoughts captive, can help my behavior and feelings change as well. Even as a single mom, I enjoyed hearing what you said about marriage and longevity. Thank you!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      January 20, 2018

      Charlene, wonderful example and mental image: Behavior, Thoughts, Feelings. In this instance, focusing our thoughts in positive ways affects our feelings, which changes our behavior. Very useful.

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