Friend, I Need Your Help

Hello friend, I need to ask for your help so I’ll get right to the point. If you have time, you can stick around for the longer version, but I completely understand if you don’t.

I’m sending my book proposal to some important people and those folks look at numbers. Publishers and agents want to see my “social media reach.”

I need to demonstrate that I have a community of people who like what I write and believe in me.

Would you please take a minute to do one or more (or all!) of these:

Subscribe to my newsletter – I send it every few weeks (or less often) and it only takes a minute or two to read. This number is important because subscribers are considered my most loyal readers.  You’ll get a free download of the lovely “courage, dear heart” graphic in the sidebar as my thank you.

Follow me on Facebook.

Follow me on Instagram.

Follow me on Pinterest.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart.


Now for the longer version for those of you who have time.

I began writing this book years ago, literally years, with an incredible co-author. We had a vision for a book that would combine solid research about children with early trauma with my experiences as a mother parenting children from “hard places.”

Our lives held many challenges — most of you know mine. We went through so much during those years with Kalkidan and some of our other children. Then we had our accident and lost Kalkidan nearly three years ago.

My co-author also faced significant challenges that affected our progress.

Despite many trials, we stayed connected and pressed on. Some months after we lost Kalkidan, I told her I felt more compelled than ever to finish the book and she agreed.

We were working with an editor at a publishing house who was advising us through the process of writing the book proposal, which is extensive and includes sample chapters. He was incredibly helpful, but he left the publishing house before we signed a contract.

Now we have a manuscript that is nearing completion and no contract. I need to get back to submitting the proposal to publishers. With our inside connection gone, I’ve also been advised to find an agent.

That’s the hard part of the “book story.”

There are so many good parts though!

1. I believe the book will help many families. Theory meets reality. Friend, you know I walk this journey with you every single day. This book has stories of me making my way through the days using my connected parenting tools and parenting as therapeutically as I can. Sometimes I really mess up, other times it’s amazing.

The great bonus of the book is my co-author explains why the tools work! She explains what is happening in our kids’ brains that make scripts, sensory input, the balance of nurture and structure, and so much more work.

2. Everything I’m learning in the process of writing the book translates to future book projects, and I’ve already started my book on “giving voice to siblings.”

3. This is a lesson in perseverance and I’ve cried more than a few tears over it. I’ve yearned to see it come to fruition. God has it all in control, but it’s been a learning, growing, painful sort of process. I believe the day will come when I’ll hold the book in my hands and know it was worth it.

I could go on, but I’ll leave it at that today. Thank you for your help and if you are a praying person, I appreciate your prayers for this project.

If you have connections in the book publishing world and want to advise or lend a hand, please email me at lisa@onethankfulmom.com

I know self-publishing is a fantastic option and may pursue it for future books, but I don’t plan to pursue self-publishing right now. That could change, and if it does I’ll let you know.

I’m bursting at the seams to tell you more and will as soon as I can.

Thank you, friend, for reading and supporting my blog all these years. I appreciate you so much! Leave me a comment and say hello – an encouraging word would be fantastic too.

with love, courage, and hope for the journey,

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

38 Comments

  1. AmyE
    October 16, 2017

    Your writings about your journey have been one of my lifelines that have helped keep me afloat on this very hard road. I often wish you lived down the road so I could run to your house when I’m escaping my disregulated child. 😉 I have already followed you on all those venues and would do it again if I could. Praying that this book is published soon. Many of us need your authentic words and help. Blessings!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      You could come hide at my table and I would make you tea, Amy. Thank you for your prayers.

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  2. Bonnie
    October 16, 2017

    Oh my goodness, yes! I buy and read books by others based on your recommendations. And toys. And games. And would I buy and recommend a book you actually wrote? A thousand times yes!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      Thank you, Bonnie, you made me smile with this comment!

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  3. Lisa L
    October 16, 2017

    I heard you speak at the Created 4 Care conference last March. As a former teen mom and an adoptive mom of 6 (including one with RAD), I felt like my heart was sitting in my hands as you were talking. You know that horrible pain in your throat when you want to break down into giant emotionally sobs, but you just don’t let yourself? That was me. I was so incredibly touched by your story. I am very excited that you have written this book. I NEED it and I am sure so many more like me do as well. Prayers being sent that your book gets in front of the right people and that God uses your words mightily.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      Lisa – I am honored and touched that my words spoke to you so deeply. I hope one day you’ll hold my book in your hands and it will be a blessing and help to you.

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  4. Anita
    October 16, 2017

    Signed up! Young blog posts over the years have been a huge encouragement, and I regularly share your wisdom with my husband after reading your words. I’d definitely buy your book!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      I love that, Anita! Thank you.

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  5. Ann
    October 16, 2017

    I am really looking forward to your book and know it will
    Lead to so much healing for so many kiddos. Stay the course friend!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      “Stay the course,” I needed to hear that, Ann. Thank you.

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  6. Julie Gumm
    October 16, 2017

    Sending an email of introduction to you and my literary agent right now!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      Fantastic, Julie. Thank you!

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  7. Joelle
    October 16, 2017

    I’m so excited to see you take this next step. My prayers are with you as you surmount this hurdle. It will be a joy to hold a copy of your book in my hand!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      Thank you, Joelle, it will definitely be a joy for me too.

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  8. Barbara Johnson
    October 16, 2017

    As I read your Facebook posts over the years, I wondered “if and when” you would be writing a book. GOOD FOR YOU, so glad to see you working toward that goal!! God’s timing is perfect, and I believe with you that this will happen!! Keep up the good work….anything worth doing has a few “hitches. 😁Be encouraged!,

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      Thank you for believing for and with me, Barbara!

      Reply
  9. Michele Hiatt
    October 16, 2017

    Your blog was incredibly helpful during all those really hard years after coming home with 3 children who all have trauma backgrounds. There were days where I felt like there was no one else to talk to and no one understood what was taking place inside our home and you would post something so relevant and it was like having a cup of coffee with a friend – and after reading I could breathe again! I am already doing all of those things you mentioned and now I will PRAY for you to find the right connections!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      Michele, you’ve given words to just what I hope my blog is for my readers – like a message from a friend who is just ahead of you on the journey. I am grateful for your prayers.

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  10. Carol Nelson
    October 16, 2017

    I follow you on FB and I believe I signed up for your newsletter because I received a copy of your print. Love your words of encouragement as I’m a mother of two grown adopted daughters. We have weathered some difficulties throughout our journey but it’s always comforting to know that there are others out of there that share some of these same feelings and issues. Prayers for you as you navigate through the field of publishing.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      Carol, thank you for your prayers and for reading as the mom of grown kids.

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  11. KEB
    October 16, 2017

    I am so excited to read your book! Your words, wisdom and faith are always something that I look forward to. I hope that they realize that there are many of us who would welcome your book into our home libraries!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      I hope so too! Thank you.

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  12. Rachal P.
    October 16, 2017

    Lisa! You won’t believe this but as I was listening to your interview on Honeatly Speaking Podcast recently, (I’ve followed you for years after hearing you and your son speak at Refresh a few years ago), I was thinking “Lisa should write a book!”. This is so exciting for me! We’ve recently moved to the east coast and I am plugging into a newly launched foster and adoption support group and I’m working with leadership to bring viable resources to the foster and adoptive community in our area. I can’t wait to read this book and pass the recommendation on to the growing commmity here in the Richmond, VA/DC area. Praying for you Lisa. Thank you for your willingness time and time again to step out on faith and tell your story.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      Rachal, I love that you heard Isaiah speak all those years ago – was it five? Thanks for sharing my work in your new community. I love knowing my words are helping families and hope this book will be a blessing to our adoption/fostering community.

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  13. Angie
    October 16, 2017

    Praying for you, this book & it’s impact. I’m looking forward to reading it! Also interested as an aspiring writer myself, to learn from you as you go through this process from start to finish. Thank you for sharing your difficult, but grace laced story sofar with us all so transparently & eloquently. To God be the glory! All His best to you & your wonderful family.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      Thank you, Angie. You might want to listen to the Hope Writers podcast and consider joining the community. Marty mentioned it in her comment. http://hopewriters.com/podcast/

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  14. Lisa
    October 16, 2017

    Already wishing I could have a sneak peak at your sibling voice book!
    I have truly enjoyed your writings and it always feels as if your a wise friend on my porch who understands and guides.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      I’m very excited about the sibling book and can’t wait to put some energy into it. I’m gathering surveys from siblings now.

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  15. Sarah
    October 16, 2017

    Count me in! You are an inspiration to so many, and your stories are so relevant and give real life application to those of us who are a few years behind you.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      That is so much of what I hope this book offers, Sarah. Thank you.

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  16. shilo Taylor
    October 16, 2017

    Asking God for some miracles–that His hand is evident in this publishing process just as it’s been evident in the writing (and living out!) of this book. Just “followed” you on all social media…behind you and excited to see what’s next!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      Many thanks, Shilo.

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  17. Jennifer Dugan
    October 16, 2017

    A little over a year ago I was in a place of feeling like I needed more help in finding my happiness and being thankful for the life I have. Your writings have helped me on this journey so I really hope you get what you need to make your book happen!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      That is such an encouragement to me, Jennifer. Thank you.

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  18. Jenny
    October 16, 2017

    Did them all!
    Jenny

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      Thank you, Jenny!

      Reply
  19. Marty Walden
    October 16, 2017

    Are you familiar with the hope*writers website and community? Emily Freeman and the Nester (Myqyuillin from Nesting Place) helped found it. I just joined and am going to a conference of theirs next week. They have a huge Facebook community of writers and resources. Might be a valuable resource for you.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      October 18, 2017

      I am familiar – love their podcast and have listened to every episode. I would love to hear what you think, Marty. Also, your blog is beautiful!!

      Reply

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