Fragments of Dimples' Story

“What do you most want to know?” Dimples and I sat on the sofa, the opportunity so rare, that neither of us could quite grasp it.  A friend who had known Dimples when she was very young, sent me a message Saturday morning asking how Dimples was doing.  I considered saying something light and not quite truthful, “Great, she’s doing great.  School is going well, she is growing so much…”  But the sliver of hope that Louise would know something helpful caused me to be bold.  In just a few sentences, I told her the truth of our struggles and our upcoming trip to Nebraska.  I asked if there was anything she could share with me that might help us in our journey to help Dimples heal.

She replied that she is currently in Addis and would do anything she could to help – so I asked.  Would you go to the place where my child was born, would you talk to her mother’s best friend, would you take our questions and try to fill in the gaps?  Would you meet the needs of my daughter’s heart to understand her life and herself just a little more?

Last night Dimples and I made a list:

Are my dimples from my mother or my father?

How old was I when my mother died?

What happened the day I fell into the large hole and my sister couldn’t get me out?

How did I get these scars?

What happened when the riot police broke down our door?

Was I hungry?  What did I eat?

Everything was full – the page with questions, my heart with hope, my eyes with tears.

I feel the love of Jesus for Dimples so deeply that it nearly makes me weep. God loves her so much that one week before traveling to Nebraska, this friend who was so important in Dimples’ early life, wrote me – the first time in 18 months.

Louise worked with a program for street children in Addis and was instrumental in helping Dimples – eventually getting her to the orphanage.  She was so important to Dimples that the staff at her orphanage said they would need to speak with Louise about us adopting her. We have never met, but these early photos of Dimples are from Louise.

If only Dimples could grasp how great the Father’s love for her is – if only we could grasp it!  Please pray with me that Louise will find the people who can tell us more of her story.  Maybe there is a person in Addis who holds tiny missing pieces of Dimples’ life that will help bring healing.

Lisa

 

 

 

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

31 Comments

  1. Darci
    September 10, 2012

    Oh Lisa
    God is the true miracle worker! How amazing to hear from this lady…praying with you that the questions will be answered, that God will heal Dimple's heart, for a time of healing and restoration for you and Russ and Dimples. Love in Him.

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  2. Laura
    September 10, 2012

    I will pray for the working of this miracle.

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  3. Paula Miles Spears
    September 10, 2012

    I got goose bumps and the hair on my scalp prickled when I read this. I am so praying that this might be a key to helping Dimples heal.

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  4. Angela Crawford
    September 10, 2012

    WOW! I can relate as we find ourselves piecing the puzzle together of our own daughter's story (age 7) and how needful it is for them in order to move on, heal, and flourish! I pray that this will help your sweet Dimples heal….

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  5. Michelle
    September 10, 2012

    Total tears and joy as I read this! Praising God for this blessing! Oh how He loves us!

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  6. Chrissy
    September 10, 2012

    How amazing! I pray that God will bring these answers to Dimples and she will be able to find peace. I love how you fight for you children.

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  7. Ellen
    September 10, 2012

    Praying for your daughter's healing, Lisa.
    As I hover my curser over her pictures, the title of the pictures show up. It seems to include names. Maybe one of the big kids could help change the file name of the photo?

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      September 10, 2012

      Thank you, Ellen. I will try to fix that quickly.

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  8. Kate Sumpter
    September 10, 2012

    Dear Lisa, I cried as I read the questions of what Dimples wants to know. What a scary beginning to such a small life. As my husband and I are on the road to adoption, our eyes are opened to who are children may be and what God's grace can do to heal and restore. Praying for full and complete healing for Dimples, that you and Russ would be comforted and encouraged, and that God's name would be glorified.

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  9. Alyssa
    September 10, 2012

    I pray this is a great connection for you! We feel very blessed to have contact with a few people who cared for our son when he was younger. This weekend we are going to meet one of his previous foster families for the first time and I hope to learn even more about his past. They said they have some video and pictures and they are so excited to re-connect with him after 3 or 4 years. I found her on facebook and sent a note… it turned out they live an hour away now and they we have mutual real life friends– at the time I heard back from her, our oldest daughter was in Haiti, staying with a family friend who turned out to have been college roommates with the foster mom years ago! I'm looking forward to seeing how God works these things for good in our children's lives.

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  10. Whitney
    September 10, 2012

    Oh! So poignant. I pray this helps you all.

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  11. Sammie
    September 10, 2012

    It breaks my heart that one little girl has had to endure so much hurt in her short life. Just making the list I am sure was helpful in her healing. To get answers will help even more in that healing.My two kids also come form a place of much trauma and we are also on a very challenging path working to help them heal. I am so glad you have this woman in your life and that she knows your daughter and can help to find answers that she needs.

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  12. sleepyknitter
    September 10, 2012

    Oh, tears! How beautiful and amazing. May God bring answers that will bring healing to Dimples.

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  13. Emily
    September 10, 2012

    Oh my goodness. Praying.

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  14. Courtney
    September 10, 2012

    praying. do you know when she's going?

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      September 10, 2012

      Not yet. Hopefully she'll be able to go before we leave for Nebraska.

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  15. Hannah Tucker
    September 10, 2012

    What a sweet promise of hope for a bit more healing! Praying that God will work through this situation in a powerful and beautiful way.

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  16. Cat
    September 10, 2012

    Praying too.

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  17. Laurel
    September 10, 2012

    Wow! I pray that this connection will bring some of the pieces to the puzzle that Dimples needs for healing. Our Little Miss isn't even in a place yet to realize what any of her questions would be. So hard. So sad.

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  18. Amy
    September 10, 2012

    Oh how our kiddos have suffered so much in such a short amount of time–more than most adults will ever have to endure. Praying for her tender little heart to be healed. And for Louise to be able to fill in some of the gaps for your daughter. How amazing that she called after 18 months, especially since you are heading out to NE and seeking treatment and healing. Praying she can see the beauty in the ashes.

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  19. Nancy
    September 10, 2012

    prayers for knowledge and peace to both you and your gorgeous daughter.
    nancy

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  20. Laurel
    September 10, 2012

    What an amazing opportunity! I hope and pray you get some answers for Dimples.

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  21. mamitaj
    September 10, 2012

    What an amazing blessing to know this woman who knows how to find answers! Praying you get some more pieces of the puyzzle in place so you can know best how to minister to her and help her heal. Amazing!

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  22. Staci Scooping it up
    September 10, 2012

    praying. PRAYING. said one before I left the computer to do bed time so I wouldn't forget.

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  23. Leslie
    September 10, 2012

    That is amazing Lisa. I am praying for these pieces to be revealed. I had someone interview G's family last year, and it has provided her with a clearer picture of who she is. What an amazing gift for her and demonstration og God's love. Praying for truth and healing.

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  24. Leslie
    September 10, 2012

    Those early pictures of her are precious. Hugs to you all. We love you guys.

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  25. kristine
    September 10, 2012

    Praying for you. Tonight my five year old said as he fell asleep "I want to go home." It's so hard. Praying that you get some answers for Dimples.

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  26. Sadee
    September 11, 2012

    Praying!!!

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  27. Maggie Gieseke
    September 11, 2012

    Thinking of you and Miss Dimples and hoping that you find some answers that will help her heal.

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  28. Kayla
    September 11, 2012

    That is exactly my prayer for my kids: if only they will realize how much they are loved by Jesus, that not for a moment were they abandoned by Him, without HIs presence, without HIs love. I too pray that for your Dimples. Oh Lord, teach our kids to grasp the infiniteness of your love for them.

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  29. Kim
    September 12, 2012

    Lisa, have missed visiting your blog but just coming out of a very busy season and am trying to catch up! I am just praising God for his faithfulness to you're family and especially to Dimples. Praying along side you in agreement for the answers Dimples' heart needs to heal. Bless you guys!

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