Feeling Low … Feeling Better

Once again I feel like it has been ages since I have posted anything. I began writing a My Learning Curve about bullying last Thursday, but I was so discouraged by the topic that I didn’t finish it. It was a low week for me. Russ was in Colorado for work and I was on my own quite a bit. Dimples’ last day of school was Wednesday and I was waking up with a weight in my chest just thinking about filling her days and providing her with the structure she needs for an entire summer.

By the time Russ came home on Friday, I was in a bad place emotionally. Fortunately, he came home rejuvenated, full of love for me and the kids, and ready to take on life. It was just what I needed. Now it is Sunday evening and today I  feel good, in fact, this is one of the best days I’ve had in awhile.

We had a crowd here for dinner, including Russ’ parents who are in Idaho for the summer (they live in Mexico the rest of the year), one niece, one nephew, and Mimi’s fiance. Cornell Chicken was on the grill, which always makes us happy, and my niece made a great pasta salad. Dimples made Rice Krispie treats on her own, so she was feeling happy.

We are nearly done addressing wedding invitations, which is a good thing. Last Friday Mimi found new bridesmaid dresses and changed her entire color scheme for the wedding. I love the new look! Our biggest challenge is finding dresses for the junior bridesmaids that are the right color, a nice style, and not $100 each.

On the therapy front, the layers seem to keep peeling back and although my girls have been home 22 months (Honeybee) and three years (Dimples), it seems that there is so much to process. Some of my emotional low may be related to helping them process their losses. I’m in over my head, to be sure, I’m just incredibly thankful for a fantastic therapist, a great husband, and the Lord who is my children’s great Healer.

Tomorrow is devoted to yard work — lots and lots of yard work. In one of my low moments on Friday, I told Mimi that I thought we should nix the idea of having the wedding reception in our yard. Honestly, what were we thinking?? But it is the desire of her heart, and something we will love, it’s just the preparation that is the killer.

I have a great Tuesday Topic coming up this week and I think I may actually post it on Tuesday. That would be unique.

I hope you all enjoy the weekend. Thank you for sticking with me through my minimalist blogging phase.


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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. Heather Antoine
    May 31, 2010

    Praying for you! Stressful times seem pile up all at once. Even when stress is good it takes a toll on our emoations. I'm thankful you have such a great husband and a strong faith. The Lord continues to see you through. Thanks for posting this! it's nice to see other moms that I respect going through the same type of ups and downs. Peace.

  2. Michelle
    May 31, 2010

    I'm a lurker on your blog. I just wanted to post to say I'm praying this week is a better week for you! I have had many weeks like that (our twins have only been home 10 months).
    Thank you for your wonderful blog,

  3. April
    May 31, 2010

    Thinking and praying for you.

  4. Laurel
    May 31, 2010

    Sorry you've been "down". I, too, have had some really tough days emotionally, lately. My sweet husband has been "gone" pretty much for 6 weeks, and I am just plain tired. I need him. The kids need him. Please pray that we have some answers soon, for our living situation. We just cannot go on living apart. It's not good for any of us.

    Sorry to go off on my prayer request …

    I can totally understand your "not in my backyard" comment … but also know (from pictures) that you have a BEAUTIFUL piece of property and that you will be BLESSED to be able to host the reception there. Even if not every weed is pulled … the guests will be BLESSED by your family's hospitality and Mimi will be BLESSED to be able to celebrate her wedding at the family home.

    Do you know any seamstresses that can whip up some Jr. Bridesmaids dresses for under $100???

    While I am looking forward to Big Kid weddings … I know I'll be looking to a few of my Bloggy Friends for advice. We have the very high likelihood of 4 weddings in the next year and a half or so. Oh my!

    mama of a dozen

  5. Julie
    May 31, 2010

    I CAN so relate to this post. It is so hard meeting your childrens emotional needs and filling your own tank back up. My husband has traveleld more since we brought home our children than he had in the 20 years previously. It has been very hard. I will be praying for you.


  6. Paula
    May 31, 2010

    I'm glad you are feeling better. Your blog is often the catalyst to improving my state of mind and giving me the strength to deal with my children from the hard places. I hope you have some good days ahead and get to enjoy planning the wedding.

  7. JLB
    May 31, 2010

    I am also a lurker! I hope your next week is better.

    Re: bullying, this is a pretty good website which I have bought materials from before: http://www.cruinstitute.org/index.php?p=home , if that helps at all. Also if you type in to ole' Dr. Google about "peer mediation" or "peer conflict resolution," there are some really good resources out there….

    The problem is the School Districts who don't treat "interpersonal communication/conflict resolution" as important subjects to teach in Every grade!! It's arguably the Most important – if you can't get along with your co-workers, it doesn't matter if you know math…….think about how different our world would be if every child in the world, had Conflict Resolution training in every single grade. Hmm….

    (I know I should probably wait until your *actual* post about it, but it's a topic that's extremely important to me! Look forward to reading the post). 🙂

  8. Donna
    May 31, 2010

    Glad you found a renewal in you energy and emotions. Isn't God good the way He makes our marriages. I have also found that most of the time we are not both 'down' at the same time. Our God is good!!
    Praying for your preparations. We are down to 4 days till wedding one and looking at rain in the forcast for an outdoor wedding!! Lots of praying going on here, not only for sun, but for good responses (mostly from the bride) if that is not to be.
    We are learning to rest in His plan for the day!!!

  9. ACK
    June 1, 2010

    well even though dimples chose going to school instead of home school can you home school her for the summer. If you make it like a game it might be something fun she might like. its a idea. Maybe she can write a story about something like her doll went on a adventure and found some treasure in a castle or something. or maybe she can go around the house and do a picture scavenger hunt taking a picture of something starting with each of the abc's or her name spelled out. for example D is for dog i is for ice cream m is for mom p is for pie l is for light e is for ear s is for straw etc

  10. Kathrin
    June 1, 2010

    Thinking about you. Yard work is a nice therapy too.

  11. Melodie
    June 1, 2010

    While I continue to pack for our move and feel in over my head here, I'll pray for you over there…and together, we'll get it all done and done well right?

  12. Julie
    June 4, 2010

    Glad things are better for you now. God is so good like that to send us husbands who are strong when we are weak.

    I figured that you were either very busy or feeling down (or both) when you went silent. I've also been silent lately for both of those reasons.

    Where is that "EASY" button, anyway?

    Much love,

  13. amy
    June 6, 2010

    Wanted to say, I'm impressed with your commitment to blogging, but give yourself the right to put yourself, your family, and your sanity first. Thanks for continuing to post during difficult times and know there will be those like me who continue to check in if you post once a month or once a week.

  14. Wendy
    June 7, 2010

    Praying blessings over you!


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