I didn’t quite finish telling about our visit with Dimples; let me quickly wrap it up today.
Saturday morning we were back at the cottage a little bit after 9:00. Dimples recently moved to a new room, so she asked us to bring a few things from home to decorate it. She wanted more family photos, and I managed to print out a stack to bring along. I am terrible at having photos printed, so I was pretty pleased that I actually got it done. I focused on photos of her with her siblings (like the one above) and some with Russ and me.
After hanging out in her room for a little while, we had a therapy session. Wonderfully (and surprisingly), she sat right down between Russ and me, leaning slightly against him. In the past, she has negotiated where we would all sit, or argued about it, or tried to separate herself from us, but this time, it wasn’t like that at all.
We talked about the Family Sculpture exercise we did the day before with the group, and then she drew hers on the white board. I won’t share details, but one small thing I do want to mention is that in her drawing, we (her family members) are reaching toward her. That was very meaningful to me. We aren’t turned away or distant, we’re wanting her to be part of us.
After therapy we chatted with the staff and some other families for a little while, and then it was time to say goodbye and race home to celebrate Ladybug’s birthday.
I would love to say that the week and a half following that visit has been great, but it actually churned up lots of big feelings. Dimples is in the “messy” stage of treatment, and as Dimples’ therapist says, when kids are in this phase, everything is messy – their rooms, hair, emotions – it’s all falling apart. Thankfully it is happening in a supportive environment where the children can slowly heal and rebuild.
I think that’s it. The plan for our next visit is to take the younger children along – it’s a big deal with lots of feelings for all of us.
Happy Thursday, friends.
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