Emotional Maturity

Ladybug can jump!

We are home from an intense and productive trip to Seattle.  We managed to get all of our appointments done, including three blood draws, three hours of therapy, and a quick visit with our favorite doctor at Seattle Children’s.  Best of all, we enjoyed time with friends.  I am struggling with a sinus/ear problem, so the trip was a little tough for me, especially driving home on Monday.

Today I am taking a sick day – tough for a mom, but I’m basically keeping the day as simple as possible. I put some chicken in the crock pot with a few seasonings and that (along with some pasta) will be dinner.  I canceled my Bible study and I’m even skipping Ladybug’s track meet and Rusty’s lacrosse game.  If I can get a bit of rest, I might just get better.

Something sweet happened at the girls’ appointments on Monday.  We generally start therapy appointments without kids so Russ and I can catch their therapist up on the past weeks.  This time we had a lot to talk about since so many weeks had passed.  I noticed Deborah glance at a picture Dimples had drawn for me.  It was a heart with the words, “I love you Mom” written above it.  She smiled and commented that the drawing was about the emotional maturity level of a six year old.  Dimples may be 9 1/2, but in some ways she is nearing 6 and that is dramatic good news.

I saw my mom Monday and she said, “You look tired.”  She’s right.  I’m putting myself on a sleep schedule this week and last night I even urged Russ to stop grading exams and come to bed.

I apologize for the dearth of blogging — I’m sure I’ll find some balance and get back to writing more soon.  Thanks for not forgetting me, friends.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Shonni
    April 20, 2011

    I am so sorry that you are sick. I also am sick and needing to let myself rest. I am so glad that ya’ll had a good trip Monday.

    loves,

    Shonni

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  2. Tisha
    April 20, 2011

    So glad you're getting some rest, and for the sweetness at your therapy appointment. I will pray for your sinus/ear problem.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      April 20, 2011

      Thank you Tisha. I was hoping to meet you at the ETC conference! You were missed.

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      1. Tisha
        April 20, 2011

        I was just telling the girls that I SO missed meeting you! For me, that was the worst part of not being able to go! I asked them to fill me in about the conference, and about spending time with you. 🙂 My husband had to go out of town for work, so I had to stay with the kids.

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        1. One Thankful Mom
          April 20, 2011

          Tisha, I am so sorry you missed it; I would have enjoyed meeting you. I need to make it back to CO!

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  3. Emily
    April 20, 2011

    Resting in Him–the most needful, and so often–the hardest, thing to do! I'll be praying that he multiplies rest to you as you pause and nourish your body with sleep.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      April 20, 2011

      Emily, I appreciate your prayers. I plan to go to bed nice and early tonight, and I hope to wake up with more energy in the morning.

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  4. kristine
    April 20, 2011

    Get some rest. You don't need to post all of the time to have people hold you in their thoughts.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      April 20, 2011

      Thank you Kristine – I appreciate hearing that.

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  5. charity
    April 20, 2011

    you know some days we just check in here for the dose of reality we know we will find…to remind us that when WE are fighting off something it is normal and when our kids are less than perfect, it is normal, and when we are needing to feel validated, we are doing ok (i went to bed early EVERY night last week, i think hubby thought i was upset with him as that is our time after the house is quiet, until i convinced him i was just TIRED after the conference~!) i saw an idea i am stealing this week in a popular magazine, you might like it…it was an empty sketch book that the kids in a family each filled a page of, as a gift for mom on important days, mothers day, birthday, christmas…that way even those with no money could feel like they had a gift to give…and it grew over the years…i am off to make a Mom Book. enjoy your hot bath and some deep sleep my friend. always a new dawn…

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      April 20, 2011

      Charity, thank you – yep, I'm pretty good at sharing reality 🙂 The conference was amazing, but also a lot of information to take in, wasn't it? I love the Mom Book idea; I'm going to ask my kids to start one for me this Mother's Day.

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  6. mommafoster
    April 20, 2011

    By all means, get some rest!! I am going to go do that myself. : )

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      April 20, 2011

      Good for you. Let's take care of ourselves!

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  7. Lori anderson
    April 20, 2011

    Lisa~
    we miss you when you are "away" but understand the need for rest. Take care of you so that you maintain your strength to care for the ones that need you most!

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      April 20, 2011

      Lori, such good words, thank you. I feel very aware of how much my children need me right now – from teaching a little one to read to helping an older child buy a car. The needs are vast! I've had a restful day and hope to feel much better tomorrow.

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  8. lisa
    April 21, 2011

    feel better and get some rest, u have a very full plate. our little girl 7 has the emotional maturity of a 3- 4 year old. sometimes frustrating cause i want her to be ok and it makes the neglect she sustained so glaringly obvious and raw but i feel the healing and grace everyday and hold on to that. i am so glad u are seeing progress. take good care lisa. dont worry about the blogging, we miss u when u are not there but completely understand and are just grateful when you are able to share a bit of your amazing heart with us

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      April 21, 2011

      Thank you, Lisa. I'm glad you can see this in your daughter too – it helps us to be more patient and loving mothers. Doesn't it?

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  9. coffeemom
    April 21, 2011

    That emotional maturity yardstick is an important one to mark and hopefully, watch it creep higher/older/more mature. Kudos on the good news and progress! I get that as two of mine fall WELL below their chronological years and it's a head spinner on many days to remember it and address them at that level. So…brava to you both!
    And, feel better! hard for mom to be down sick, not much margin for that in our households! Prayers for recovery are flying.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      April 21, 2011

      It helps me be a better mother when I remember that my eleven year old may be emotionally like a four year old sometimes, and it is okay. My girls are growing, healing, and changing. Feeling a bit better today!

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  10. Julie
    April 23, 2011

    Six sounds awesome when you start at zero! So happy to hear of Dimples' progress.

    Hope you feel better, Lisa. Keep resting until you do.

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  11. learningpatience
    April 23, 2011

    Glad to hear that you got good news at your appointment!

    Sorry to hear that you are not feeling well, but my blog has been quiet too; sometimes we all just need a season of rest or quiet. Praying you feel well soon!

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