“Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman” and Grief

Dr Quinn

Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman has become part of our slow journey through grief.

Evenings are hard. Once dinner is cleaned up and the boys head to bed, the house becomes quiet; it’s unsettling. Kalkidan was a bundle of energy, often talking, singing, and recruiting us to play games right up until bedtime. The strange calm in our home feels heavy.

Claire feels it most. Over the past couple of years she and Kalkidan had become the best of friends and were constant companions in recent months. Most evenings found them in Kalkidan’s bedroom talking, laughing, listening to Adventures in Odyssey, or reading aloud to one another. Now nothing is the same.

In the weeks following the accident, we found ourselves watching shows on Netflix and staying up too late – just to avoid going to bed. Claire needed to be with me, but it was difficult to find anything worth watching. I knew we would be more likely to sleep if I would lie down in her room with her, but internet in our house isn’t great, so watching something upstairs wouldn’t work.

Then I remembered the old days when we watched everything on DVD (remember that?) and I realized that if I got a TV series on DVD, we could watch it on a little DVD player in her room. We talked about what we might like. Claire remembered watching Dr. Quinn with Beza and loving it; within minutes I was on Amazon ordering the complete series.

At $56, it was far less than one therapy session and if it allows us to sleep even one more hour each night, it’s worth every penny. Watching Dr. Quinn gives us something to look forward to as evening approaches. The show is also helping us think about something outside of the accident, our loss, and my recovery – our minds need to rest.

Last week, two more TV shows on DVD arrived in our mailbox. My cousin, Rosemary, sent The Brady Bunch and The Partridge Family; we laughed when we opened the envelopes. It will be fun to see what the kids think of those.

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What series and/or movies would you recommend?

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

25 Comments

  1. Jennifer Williams
    February 9, 2015

    We have been loving Full House 🙂

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  2. angela s
    February 9, 2015

    We have enjoyed Home Improvement and The Cosby Show. We do something similar. Our date nights sometimes will be watching an episode or two. Othertimes we'll sit down as a family and enjoy them. We watched most of Gilligan's Island from the library and enjoyed Bewitched as well.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 9, 2015

      The Cosby Show is a great one. We don't own it, but we watched it on Netflix when it was available. We'll have to give Home Improvement a try. Thanks for the suggestions, Angela.

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  3. Sonya Hillrich
    February 9, 2015

    What a great idea!
    Don't emotions get more intense when the evening comes? I know how our home is without the grief you are all processing, & it is sometimes such a relief to laugh & watch a good story together.
    I am continuing to pray for your family (you & your girls are especially on my heart), as well as being thankful for your willingness to live this story out with faithfulness, wherever God leads.
    I know you are broken beyond words, but because of our God, you are inspiring so many of us with your baby steps of grief & redemption.

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  4. Tom Vanderwell
    February 9, 2015

    The Cosby Show – all 8 years worth…….

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  5. annie21livinginusa
    February 9, 2015

    Full House, Star Trek, Gilmore Girls..there a quite a few series out there that are good…

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  6. Karen P
    February 9, 2015

    When going through a season of anxiety and depression, I also watched tv late at night to help me relax before going to sleep and The Walton's was a favorite of mine. The family was so loving and caring. Also, I don't know if you all are mystery fans, but The Hardy Boys/Nancy Drew series from the 70's/80's is fun and Murder She Wrote is a big hit with everyone in our house. I'm continuing to pray for all of you.

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  7. Alisa
    February 9, 2015

    We like the Waltons!

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  8. amy
    February 9, 2015

    How about the Little House series? Or is that too "young"?

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      February 9, 2015

      We love Little House and watch it on Sunday evenings as a family. It's such a good show. Another one I've heard about is When Calls the Heart, but I think the DVDs are expensive and I can't find it online. I'd like to give it a try sometime.

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  9. Courtney
    February 9, 2015

    Little House on the Prairie! there are SO many seasons and my kids LOVE it! (ages 13 down to age 4!)

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  10. Rayia
    February 9, 2015

    Little House on the Prairie and Larkrise to Candleford, are some of our family favorites, right up there with Dr. Quinn. 🙂 So thankful for the little things that help with your healing!

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  11. Lori
    February 9, 2015

    We often watch through the Christie series, Anne of Green Gables and Sarah Plain and Tall when Shannon is travelling. I've been thinking of Dr. Quinn too!

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  12. Jana
    February 9, 2015

    What a great idea, I hope that the time together helps you all heal. One of the series that came to mind for me was Touched By an Angel. I loved that show growing up, and the messages are so good.

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  13. Emily
    February 9, 2015

    I watched Dr. Quinn through a breakup and my mom having cancer! So helpful.

    I think you guys would like Gilmore Girls, and it's on Netflix.

    Have you tried Boy Meets World? It's good.

    Love you.

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  14. Melissa Dunn Corkum
    February 9, 2015

    We always watched Dr. Quinn followed by Touched by An Angel!

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  15. Cathy
    February 9, 2015

    "Road to Avonlea" ~ being Canadian we raised our family on this series which is a follow up to Anne of Green Gables. Our guys and gals loved this heart warming, fun loving series. I believe it ran for 7 years so there is a good selection out there !
    Praying for you ~

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  16. Dee
    February 9, 2015

    I enjoy watching Quantum Leap when my guys were younger.

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  17. Shawn
    February 9, 2015

    Maybe listening to books on tape while working on a puzzle would be soothing.

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  18. Kayla
    February 10, 2015

    Dr. Quinn is such a great series. My kids are kind of big on Full House right now too. They also like The Cosby Show. What about just plain old I Love Lucy? I think she's just plain funny no matter what. McGuyver also comes to mind. Got hubby thinking too. He says Growing Pains or Family Ties or maybe The Wonder Years or Nightrider or Chips or Dukes of Hazard. Or Gunsmoke?

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  19. Karen Y
    February 10, 2015

    "I Dream of Jeannie" and"Bewitched". – clean, funny, entertaining.

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  20. Marie
    February 11, 2015

    I second Anne of Green Gables!

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  21. KMT
    February 11, 2015

    The Bionic Woman is my all-time favorite.

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  22. Kristen
    February 13, 2015

    Such a great idea! We do something similar in our house when we are going through hard seasons and it can be so therapeutic! One of our favorites is Andy Griffith… so 'light' and a little shorter (20 minutes maybe?) for when we can't fit in a whole show.

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  23. Nicole
    March 2, 2015

    If you like Dr. Quinn and little house, you should look for Avonlea! It was a wonderful show about the town and of green gables lived in…. Features a lot of the same characters from those movies. I believe the DVD series is called tales from avonlea. It has at least 5 seasons… Probably more. Also, if you haven't seen Anne of green gables and Anne of avonlea you should definitely watch them! They are wonderful.

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