Dimples is coming home for a visit tomorrow and bringing her therapist along. They arrive Friday afternoon and stay through Sunday morning.
We had a long conversation Monday evening, talking through some of the details, and she doesn’t like some of the changes we’re making at home. The garage remodel hasn’t been started, so her new bedroom won’t be ready. Samuel and Isaiah are giving her their room for the weekend, which she is unhappy about, but it’s the best we can do right now. We have to practice the new way our family is going to live when she actually comes home.
Safety for everyone is non-negotiable, and having bedrooms that can be a haven for the children is essential. The children need to know that when times are difficult, they can go to their room and know that they are safe. Dimples needs a room where she can feel safe and know she has the tools she needs to regulate herself. Bedrooms are going to be off limits for play, at least for now.
At one point she refused to come for the visit. Lots of arguing ensued, but eventually she was able to adjust and agree that even if it isn’t the way she wants it to be, she can give it a try.
The plan for the weekend is very low-key. Family dinner is planned for Saturday night, so that morning we’ll go to the grocery store (she is very excited about that), and spend the afternoon cooking and preparing. Since this is a time focused on family, she’ll only be seeing a few extra people. Signe is coming over with Happy (who is both Sunshine and Dimples’ closest friend) and we’re planning a Thanksgiving craft for the girls to do together. Aunt Michele is coming too.
We’ll all go to church Sunday morning and they’ll head back to MT shortly afterward.
The visit will give us an opportunity to begin figuring out what the greatest challenges are going to be and developing strategies. My greatest concerns are dealing with food, bedtime, and competition over time and attention. I don’t expect any big behaviors in this short visit, and think that we’ll all be encouraged.
Bee and I have an appointment today which will give us a few hours together. Sometimes she loves being with me, other times, not at all. We’ll see how this afternoon goes.
Have a wonderful Thursday, friends.
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