Dandelions, Adoption, and So Much Love

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You see this dandelion? This flower seems to represent the joy I find in motherhood.

Last week I posted this picture on Instagram with the caption, “My first dandelion gift of spring. I love being a mom.”

Hannah was born when I was 23. I don’t remember with certainty, but I would guess I got my first dandelion bouquet by the time I was 25.

That was many years ago, friends; I’m 52 and I still have a son picking dandelions for me. Does it get better than this?

Adoption has brought so much love to my life – so much love.

Every time I say goodbye to my daughter , we kiss one another’s cheeks and say, “I love you”.

My youngest son is nine and he loves me far more than I deserve. I had no idea the joy he would bring to my life when I saw his referral photos come through my email all those years ago.

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Sometimes my other son lets me hug him, not often, but when he does, it fills my heart. I tell him I love him every day because he needs to hear it, even when he doesn’t respond. Even in the hard moments, I know he loves me.

And Kalkidan? We fought hard for one another; what a struggle we had. I find little notes from her with words like, “I love you Mom,” and I could nearly fall to my knees in gratitude for the reminders.

We’ve been broken by adoption. We’ve been blessed by adoption.

We have loved more fully and through deeper pain than we ever imagined.

We’ve lost so much, and we’ve gained more — much more.

In the process we’ve learned more about Jesus – I hope we look a little more like him too.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

8 Comments

  1. Michele
    April 25, 2016

    Lost so much and gained so much more. Thankful for all the moments and dandelions that have taught me more about Jesus and learning to be like him.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 25, 2016

      Me too, Michele, me too.

      Reply
  2. Joy Headrick
    April 25, 2016

    Beautiful. What love you have and what love you share. I love it.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 25, 2016

      I’ve been very blessed. Thank you for commenting, Joy.

      Reply
  3. Paula
    April 25, 2016

    Everything you write is so beautiful and so TRUE.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      April 26, 2016

      Thank you, Paula. Sometimes I forget to write about the good, the sweet, the blessings and I need to remember!

      Reply
  4. Beza
    May 3, 2016

    I love this post, it gives hope to adopted kids.

    Reply
    1. Lisa Qualls
      May 4, 2016

      Thanks sweet girl. I love you.

      Reply

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