"Dad! There are White People?"

time for math

Russ was singing to the boys last night as he tucked them in bed; he went through a number of old favorites and wrapped it up with “Jesus loves the Little Children.”  When he got to the line, “…red and yellow, black and white…” Little Man interjected, “Dad!  There are white people?”  Russ answered, “Well yes – I’m white.”  Little Man shook his head, and with a wise smile said, “No, you’re not, you’re brown.”

I asked him this morning, “Little Man, what color am I?”  He answered,”You’re sort of white on your fingernails, but sort of brown on your skin.  I don’t really know.  Just look in the mirror and see because I can’t tell you.  You just look pretty great to me because you’re my mom and I love you.”

Then he pointed to a freckle on my skin and said, “See, right here you are the same color as me.  You are part Ethiopia.”

That made my morning.

I’ve been doing a little blog housekeeping.  We recently added a Facebook “Like” button to the sidebar and I would be ever so grateful if you would click on it and “Like” One Thankful Mom on Facebook.  If you do, you’ll get a notification each time I post on my blog, and best of all, it will make me happy to see you add your name to my “Friends.”  If you are already my friend on Facebook but haven’t “Liked” my One Thankful Mom page, be sure to do it since I will be transitioning to only sharing links to my blog on that page.  I hate to clog up my high school friends’ pages with links to my adoption blog.

Last night I was looking through some of the pages on my blog and found two that had not been updated in two years or so.  My About Me page still referred to the site as A Bushel and A Peck, in the first sentence on the page, no less.  And the FAQ’s had not been updated in two years.  I updated them a little bit and should probably do more, but that is it for now.

The most surprising realization, however, was that there was a slew of great comments that had landed in the comment spam folder.  I have no idea why – but I promptly approved them all.  If you ever leave a comment and it doesn’t show up reasonably soon, please shoot me an email.  I love your comments, they mean so much to me, and I would hate for you to take the time to comment and have it never appear. [ Note to self – check the spam folder.]

giving thanks #801 – 810

Sunshine practicing her memory work with a British accent

a few ideas for Spring Break – hopefully a plan will develop quickly

friends who share their lives with me, and are willing to listen as I process

pill boxes filled this morning with meds that give life to my girls

doctors and researchers who devote their lives to bringing health to people with HIV

sun streaming in the kitchen windows!!

snow melting away

Kathleen reminding me that God’s grace is sufficient for today

Russ leaving for work looking handsome 

two more birthdays this week – Sweet Pea and Samuel

Thank you for reading and sharing life with me.

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

15 Comments

  1. Amber
    March 6, 2012

    I LOVE it! Such a cute little comment!

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  2. Andrea
    March 6, 2012

    Sweet! I had a similar conversation with my friends in Ethiopia in November. One asked me, why do you call yourself white? You are not white! lol interesting thought process

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  3. Kylee
    March 6, 2012

    I love the things that kids say! What a precious boy you have!!

    I'll go "like" you on Facebook : )

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  4. Cat
    March 6, 2012

    Ack! Love this. what a cool kid.

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  5. Laurel
    March 6, 2012

    I "liked" you yesterday on FB. 🙂

    LOVE the discussion about skin color. When our Little Miss started going to school, we asked if there were any other black/brown children in her class or school. She told us, "No." in no uncertain terms. A week or so later, I was talking to the teacher and she mentioned there were 2 African-Americans in Little Miss' class. When we asked Little Miss about it, she told me, "Well … they aren't brown like me." So, it is all about the SHADE of brown.

    Love that you are part Ethiopian because of a freckle. 🙂

    Hope your week is BLESSED!

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  6. Karen P
    March 6, 2012

    I have 3 sons, one Caucasian, one Chinese, and one African-American. When the oldest two were very young, they thought they looked alike because they have the same color eyes. Too bad all people can't see our similarities, rather than our differences.

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  7. theinnermostbox
    March 6, 2012

    What a sweet statement of belonging! Brought a few tears to my eyes.

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  8. Joelle
    March 6, 2012

    I love the innocence and freshness of the young. I remember arguments with my next younger rather when we were young concerning who was the most Indian based on who had the darkest tan.

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  9. Paula
    March 6, 2012

    And kind of on the opposite end of the spectrum from what Karen P. mentioned… my very identical twin daughters think they look nothing alike and are very exasperated that the rest of the world can't see the oh so obvious differences. 🙂

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  10. Anita
    March 6, 2012

    Oh I LOVE little Man's comments. I had to share them with my husband and he loved them too! We have an African-American-Hispanic adopted daughter who is just two, and I am curious when she will start talking about these things.

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  11. Damaris
    March 6, 2012

    Oh my goodness, what an adorable son you have there. The comment to your husband cracked me up. And how sweet was he noticing that the color of your freckle was the same as he is and so you are part Ethiopia. Made me teary. Reminds me of my son's comment when he turned 4 (he's now 7); he was born in Guatemala and my husband is Irish American. One day my son surprised me by referring to another child as being "brown". i thought children didn't notice skin colors at that age. However, when I asked him what color his (brown) skin was, he said, "white! see?" and showed me his arm. He is so close to his dad that I guess he identified himself more closely with his dad's white skin color. Now, though, when he draws a picture of himself, he colors the skin brown and has referred to himself as a Mayan warrior (something I told him a long time ago). To him, it's just a fact and he knows we're all beautiful, just as Little Man knows that.

    Damaris
    PS I just LOVE your blog. So insightful and so helpful. Thanks for sharing yourself with us.

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  12. Alyssa
    March 7, 2012

    My mom told me she sang that to me when I was little and I asked, "What about us pink children?"

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  13. Darci
    March 7, 2012

    I haven't commented much lately..sorry! I know how great comments are…have been reading tho, usually in the middle of the night;)….your tell it well series has been so powerful…
    I love that, I must be much Ethiopian bc I have a fair few moles:)

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  14. Elsa
    March 7, 2012

    What a sweet boy…that definitely brought tears to my eyes.

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  15. Sherry
    April 30, 2012

    Oh this made me smile huge…thank you for sharing.

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