Sometimes a child joins our family through foster care or adoption and pushes us away despite our best efforts. When we’re the parent being rejected, it’s painful and has the potential to reach deeply into our hearts and minds.
This question comes from Lindsey,
My husband and I have been foster parents and are adopting a three yr old boy we have had for 4 months. He was homeless the first 2 yrs of his life, with his father. No mom. My husband and I both work part-time, but my husband is home more than me. Our son has latched onto him but has really rejected me for the most part.
I am seeing little glimpses of hope, but for the most part, he avoids me and dismisses me, or angrily says “I not talk to you,” or “I not look at you!” We have had many different children with different disabilities/backgrounds/ages, but never this situation. Any tips?
Please offer your thoughts, experiences, words of encouragement, and advice in the comments for Lindsey. You don’t need to be an expert, even an “I’ve been there,” is helpful.
If you have a question you would like me to share as a Tuesday Topic, email it to me at firstname.lastname@example.org
Please put “Tuesday Topic” in the subject line to help me stay just slightly organized.
It feels great to have Tuesday Topics rolling again – I love hearing from you! Last week I added Facebook comments from my One Thankful Mom Page as a separate blog post because they were particularly meaningful.
I may add them again this week, not necessarily as a separate post, but possibly to the end of this post; I’ll see what seems best. I love the discussions on FB, but they disappear quickly and I don’t want anyone to miss them.
Have a great day, friends! I can’t wait to hear from you.