Can We Be Honest?

I know this is a beautiful scene, but I just have to say, “Enough already! I am done with snow for this winter!” Yesterday the wind was blowing the snow horizontally past my windows and Samuel couldn’t make it up the driveway in our minivan. If Russ has to break out the tractor to plow, I just might cry (he assures me it is not going to come to that).

And speaking of honesty, Dimples wrote me the following note last night:

“I don’t like you, Mom, when I’m mad. When I’m happy, I like you Mommy”

I have to admit, I think her note is honest and insightful. I’m no professional, but I think it demonstrates her awareness of the complexity of her relationship with me. She is learning that her feelings change, but she is also learning that even when she doesn’t like me, I am still her Mommy and I love her.

In other news, my friend Signe is almost home with her new son! She is in the air on her way to SeaTac and will be home on Saturday. We are so excited to meet N. and hear about their time in Ethiopia.

Sharing my “Mommy journey”,


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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. blessedmomto7
    March 6, 2009

    Thanks again for you wonderful insight.

  2. Sandee
    March 6, 2009

    When I saw your title, I thought, “Oh yes, Let’s!” I need a little authenticity. 🙂

    And too much of anything, even if pretty, is …well just too much!

    I love the insight around Dimples. I was thinking too day how I get too emotional over my kids emotions.

    I internal aquirm at speaking up on something, thinking ahead of their reaction. But I do the right thing, they react and 5 minutes later, often, they are back to “I like you mommy.”

    Thanks for sharing!

  3. Shonni
    March 6, 2009

    And here I live in Colorado and we have seen almost NO snow…
    I like the letter from Dimples and that she feels safe enough to share it with you.

  4. darci
    March 6, 2009

    argh..we had another blizzard yesterday, and back to -23. sigh.

  5. Adrielle
    March 6, 2009

    Your picture looks just like a Christmas card and Alyce happens to be playing her musical “silent night” Christmas card right now but this is MARCH! I think WA has been having snow lately too! Just crazy! Of course its sunny where I’m at, too bad its such a long drive!
    Just went to Costco today by my self for the first time and was thinking of you. I also just pulled a pan of your fudge brownies out of the oven! They are a hit among the Marines just as they were with the college students!:)

  6. Laurel
    March 6, 2009

    I don’t think it’s over yet … sorry. I believe the last 2 years we had March and April snows, which are extremely out-of-the-norm for Western Wa.

    We have snow predicted for tomorrow … and our boys have track practice. Last year, we had a track meet, in the snows, in April.

    Crazy weather. I don’t quite understand what it has to do with Global WARMING!?

    If Russ has to get out the tractor, don’t cry, just bundle up, take a picture, and know that you can laugh about it later.


    Laurel 🙂

  7. small world
    March 7, 2009

    We can’t wait for nicer weather as well! Hope we can talk some time!
    Love, Theresa

  8. Lori
    March 9, 2009

    When I am mad…I don’t always like ME very much. When I am happy – I am easier on me! I love that kid….she is so tenacious.

  9. Heidi Mehltretter
    March 12, 2009

    Love how you are “mom” when you aren’t liked and “mommy” when you are:)

    Thanks for mentioning that book again, too, I have to order it.

    My kids are nuts with the hotsauce, too, we get the brand Tapatio, which is cheap and really, really tasty.

    I’ve been gardening this week since it’s been in the 80s, and the lettuce started coming up outside. It might get into the fifties, though, so I’m worried I may have jumped the gun.:).

    Sorry, had to do it. MOVE SOUTH with us!!


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