Being Intentional

I love these roses in my yard.
I love these roses in my yard.

Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. Ps. 90:12

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This morning I began reading Pursue the Intentional Life by Jean Fleming, and I wish I could read all day. She asks,

What does it look like to live a beautiful life in a fallen world? How can I prepare my heart and mind for the challenges, opportunities, and transitions that will come? What does it look like to live Christ to the very end?

My friend, Shelley, sent this to me with a note saying it is her favorite book. That’s high praise. The books comes to me at a good time – I’m asking God many questions about what he wants me to do when the summer ends and a new school year begins.

My life has changed. I am changed.

There are so many options and I must find the best among the good. The options spread before me: Bible Study Fellowship, book group, blogging, finishing my book (!), speaking, homeschooling, volunteering at the kids’ school, rebuilding my health, my discipleship group, decluttering my home, taking classes, and the list goes on.  I’ll let you know as I sort things out; I’m sure it will be any second now.

And then there is grief – a process that is filled with the unexpected and can change the course of my day in a heartbeat.

Today my goals are focused. We’re going to a very special wedding (Emily and Ben!) in Oregon this weekend, and I’m in the midst of packing. I’m debating just how casually Eby and Wogauyu can be dressed and still look wedding appropriate…

As soon as I publish this, I’m headed into the dark cavern of the  boys’ closet to (hopefully) unearth a bin of clothes that Eby has grown to fit. If I can find it, I’m relatively sure that there will be something for him to wear beyond basketball shorts and t-shirts.

What does your weekend hold? Are you grappling with questions of the best vs. the good?

Friends, I am so honored that you take the time to read my words, that you care about my family, and that you haven’t given up on me.

Love to each one of you,

Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

15 Comments

  1. Sharon
    July 9, 2015

    Lisa, Oh, your words came at the perfect time for me. I am moving into a new season with all of my kiddos back in public school this year and yesterday a job that I would love and have trained for over the last few years was offered to me. I found out this afternoon that they can't accommodate the hours that I needed (which was upfront), so I'm sadly walking away from that position. I know it's not what's best, but praying about what is? Thank you.

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  2. Mavis
    July 9, 2015

    Love you right back. I think I need to read that book….

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  3. Amy
    July 9, 2015

    I am hoping to meet you at Emily's wedding. Emily and I actually connected because I saw her commenting on your blog; of which I'm a long time reader. You've been in my prayers and my heart, even tho we've never met!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      July 10, 2015

      Amy, it will be so fun to meet you! Be sure to find me. How wonderful that we get to connect at our sweet friend's wedding.

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  4. KEB
    July 9, 2015

    Thank you for this post and rest assured – I am so happy you haven't given up on us! I learn so much every time I read your blog about family, faith and strength. Thank you for sharing with us!

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  5. Laurel
    July 9, 2015

    Thanks for recommending this book. I, too, am asking the Lord what he wants for me. I, too, am trying to get ahold of life after walking through crisis after crisis. I, too, am grieving. My grief is certainly different than yours (and cannot compare to the depth of your pain), but it is grief nonetheless.

    Thinking of you and praying for you often.

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  6. Margaret
    July 9, 2015

    why can't they wear kilts and highland dress and look masculine and regal?

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  7. Kristine Barr
    July 9, 2015

    It is so hard to live in a falling apart world. I, with none of your problems, have those very same worries.

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  8. Elizabeth
    July 9, 2015

    So much to process, may you continue to find your needs filled for each moment.

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  9. Heather
    July 9, 2015

    Lisa, thank you for sharing your life with us. Take your time, breathe Him in, and let Him lead you through grace upon grace, like He always has. He's got this. You are loved. You are kept. You're the apple of His eye.

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  10. Jennifer
    July 9, 2015

    Your words are a privilege to read – they are raw and real – as beautiful in happiness and sorrow as your roses. I hope you do find a way to write that book. As for me I am grappling with worry about my loved one's health – trying hard to keep my fears in check and not to worry in advance of knowing anything. As for this weekend – a date night (its been an overdue while!), a bbq and some quiet time – very much the best of summer. Blessings to you and yours.

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  11. Emily
    July 10, 2015

    Omg they can be dressed SO CASUALLY! Have I not told you this? For sure. No one, including the groom and our dads, is wearing jackets. Ben is wearing a white shirt, khakis, and a tie. Shorts are great for the boys if they want… etc. 😀 (And really, I mean we'd be totes down with basketball shorts and t-shirts)

    WE ARE SO EXCITED TO SEE YOU OMG TOMORROW!!! I love you. Thank you for being intentional with us 🙂

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      July 10, 2015

      It's 5;30 in the morning and I'm up doing last things before I wake everyone and we head your way. I'm so glad I saw this! You probably did tell me, but I don't remember. The boys are NOT wearing bball shorts and t-shirts, but they won't be overdressed, I promise. See you by late afternoon!

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  12. Christi
    July 10, 2015

    We haven't met…but I want you to know there are many praying for your family as you struggle with grief and loss. Whether we are friends…or strangers…we walk beside you. May you have a weekend of sweet memories.

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  13. Mavis
    August 3, 2015

    I just started "Pursue the Intentional Life" by Jean Fleming. I just wanted to say thanks so much for the suggestion. It seems to be just what I needed! !!!

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