Before I Knew She Was Mine

This photo of Dimples was taken the day we met her.  You see her surrounded by other children as they play with balloons we carried on our long journey to Ethiopia.

We knew Dimples was ours, but we had no idea that the little girl on the left, now lovingly nicknamed Honeybee, would become our daughter.  Honestly, it amazes me to witness the hand of God in our lives.  He knew — He really knew that this child who happened to be in front of my camera would be my daughter.  I am in awe of this.

I looked at this little girl helping Dimples with a balloon and it never occurred to me that I would return home unable to forget her.  Her image would continue to surface in my mind at unexpected times, as I was washing dishes or folding laundry.  The feel of her hand in mine, or the way she made a funny joke about Eby would bring a smile to my face.  I prayed for her and wished God would give her a family.

You know the end of the story; nine months after we met her, we knew that we needed to add her to our family.  Eight months later she was home.

This is one the of the most amazing things I have experienced as an adoptive mother.  My children were born and had lives completely separate from mine before I knew their faces and names.  In Honeybee’s case, I even met her and still did not know she would become my child.

I know I say this often, but I am honored that God chose me to be the mother of my four children from Ethiopia.  It is not always easy, in fact at times it is brutally hard, but I love them, and I know how truly blessed I am.  Honeybee, Dimples, Eby, and Little Man have brought gifts to my life that are beyond expression.  These four have opened my heart and expanded my world in ways I could never have imagined even five years ago.

I am in awe of what God is doing our lives, and I trust Him, to see us through.  There is nothing wasted by God, no sorrow, no struggle, no suffering that He cannot use to bring glory to Himself through His merciful love.

Don’t forget that you have until midnight Friday to join the Adoption Rocks Giveaway fun!  Have a wonderful weekend.

~Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

14 Comments

  1. Donna
    May 14, 2010

    What an amazing experience!!!

    Praising God for the miraculous ways He works!

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  2. Tonggu Momma
    May 14, 2010

    Oh, just beautiful. I am so glad you have the photo… more important, that you have this story.

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    1. OneThankfulmom
      May 14, 2010

      Thank you TM. By the way, a friend recommended a great blog post to me — and it was yours!

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  3. Kim
    May 14, 2010

    Lisa, that's such an amazing story, I just love God, I love Him, what can I say. So glad He loved us first.

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    1. OneThankfulmom
      May 15, 2010

      Kim, thank you for your beautiful words – God is so good.

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  4. Kathie
    May 15, 2010

    Wow. What a precious photo to document what God ordained from the beginning. He is certainly the Great Adoption Coordinator–how He matches orphans with families, then starts weaving our hearts together. We had this same experience with our adoption. Our spirits just knew our son was ours.

    God Bless,
    Kathie

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  5. Julie
    May 15, 2010

    What a beautiful post. Thanks so much for sharing.

    Julie

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  6. Julie
    May 15, 2010

    Beautiful! God is so sweet to give us "look-back" blessings! Thank you for sharing. One day, I will have to go back and read your in-process posts, since I found you after you were already home with your kiddos.

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    1. OneThankfulmom
      May 15, 2010

      Some day I should go back and read them too! A reader told me that she read my entire blog from the beginning, which made me think I should do that…and then delete some of it!

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  7. Karen
    May 17, 2010

    I met my daughter to be twice before I knew she would become mine! When I met her the first time in 2005, she was a mere 11 months old. I was taking Christmas pictures of the children at the orphanage and when it came to be her turn, the nanny told me that she didn't need her picture taken because she didn't have a family. I told the nanny that SOMEDAY she would have a family and that the family would cherish having a photo of her first Christmas. Little did I know then that her family would be ours. Fast forward to summer 2007 and I did the same thing–took her picture because I felt her family would love to have one of her growing up. She remained in our minds and in our hearts and we began her adoption process in late 2007. She still isn't home–yet–but we still know that God ordained our relationship and that we ARE meant to be her parents.

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    1. OneThankfulmom
      May 17, 2010

      Karen, that is beautiful! Thank you.

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  8. Terri
    May 17, 2010

    Following a rabbit trail here I am! I love your photos of the whole family and wish I could click on them to make them bigger.
    I can not believe the time that has flown…

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    1. OneThankfulmom
      May 18, 2010

      Hi Terri! Eventually – maybe this summer – I plan to have a bio page with individual photos of the family along with a bit about each of us. The other pictures I size down to make them upload more quickly. Maybe I should reconsider that. Thank you for leaving a comment; it is nice to hear from you!

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  9. Oldqueen
    May 18, 2010

    I love this. It always helps to be reminded that God is "always" at work in the small details of our life even when we don't have a clue. What a blessing for her to have this visual reminder that God meant for her to be yours.

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