Bee

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Bee is the oldest of our adopted children and the last child to join our family. We met her on our first visit to Ethiopia in 2007. At the orphanage, she endeared herself to us as she carried my backpack, played with Eby, and stayed by my side. When I laid Little Man down to change him, the children gathered in a circle around me; Bee proceeded to hand a diaper wipe to each child. They all washed their hands and faces, then most of them them folded up the wipes and tucked them in their pockets or the waistband of their pants.

Bee’s real name is Beza, which is pronounced “Bay-zuh.” We’ve been told her name means “redemption.” I’ve also seen the meaning “on my side” and “medicine from the heavens.” She was ten years-old when she joined our family, which makes her nearly the same age as Annarose. With advice from our agency, we legally changed Beza’s age at the time of her adoption to make her one year younger. In retrospect, we probably should have left her age as it was, but it seemed like a good idea at the time. She had received only minimal education and was very small; we thought it would give her an extra year to catch up a little.

Beza spent eight of her first ten years of life in an orphanage. She loved the babies there and liked caring for them; she still loves taking care of babies. She is very strong and resilient and has grown so much in the nearly six years she has been in our family.

Her greatest recent accomplishment is a nearly miraculous leap in her reading ability – and even better, she has learned to LOVE reading. She was not literate in Amharic when she joined our family, so she not only learned to speak English, she also learned to read for the very first time. It was slow-going at first, and she was not happy, but in the past year, she has read more, and more, and more. Now she can’t stop. I’m thrilled!

I’m convinced that once you can read, there is no reason to be bored – ever.

Beza has grown to be very helpful in the kitchen, which is a great blessing to me. Last weekend she put in lots of hours of yard work as we combined our family efforts in preparation for the wedding.

Beza loves make up and hair. Last summer she cut her long hair very short and has been growing it back out ever since. Her hair is incredibly thick, even for an Ethiopian woman, and takes a lot of work to maintain, but it really is fabulous when it is big. She can rock an afro like nobody else I know.

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Beza has big plans to spend time this summer with friends in the mountains of Colorado. She’ll even go to camp for a week where she’ll see many of her friends from Ethiopia. We’re going to miss her.

This morning, Beza and I are off to Seattle for a medical appointment. It’s a rare day that the two of us get to spend hours together on the road.

Next week I’ll tell you more about Dimples and Sunshine…we’ll get to the boys soon.

Have a great Thursday, friends.

Lisa

 

 

 

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Luann Yarrow Doman
    May 29, 2014

    Bee sounds like a wonderful part of your family. She's beautiful–inside and out. Does she have any advice she would give someone like me who is in the process of adopting an older Ethiopian child?

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      May 29, 2014

      That's a great question, Luann. I should interview her and share her thoughts.

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  2. Alyssa
    May 29, 2014

    Her reading story is very encouraging to me!

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  3. Joelle
    May 29, 2014

    Beautifully written. Beautiful girl.

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  4. clamorousvoice
    May 29, 2014

    Beza is SO glamorous! She could totally have her own fashion blog.

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  5. Emily
    May 29, 2014

    Woohoo Beza!! xoxoxo.

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  6. Laura
    May 29, 2014

    Beza is one stylish young lady. She is bold in her choice of color and jewelry….and the hair. Gotta love that long curly hair that I can't wait to see again. I admire her resilience and courage. I hope she has a wonderful and fun time in Colorado. Love, Aunt Laura

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  7. Erika
    May 29, 2014

    Beautiful young lady.

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