Balance and Blogging

I was gone for ONE hour and Rusty gave Eby this haircut.

It is Thursday afternoon; Honeybee and Dimples will be out of school in thirty minutes.  I’ve accomplished a lot today and it feels great.  The past two weeks I’ve been swamped and my desk is piled with papers, post-its, To-do lists and books I’m reading.  There was no time during Spring Break to do anything but manage my crew, especially with Russ consumed with a big project.

Thursday mornings are a bright spot in my week.  Ladybug and Sunshine have morning science classes and my friend, Beth, takes Eby and Little Man to the library (thank you Beth!).  I usually have two hours of quiet when I can do important tasks or write, and I look forward to it all week. Today, before I sat down at the computer, I cleaned up breakfast dishes, put dinner in the slow cooker, and started the first load of laundry.  I hated to give up even five minutes of  solitude, but I couldn’t work in a messy environment, and I knew that dinner would hang over me until I got it started.

Despite my little pocket of quiet, I find it hard to keep up with my blog!  All day I find myself thinking of things to write.  One of my children will say something and I will file it in my mind hoping to get back to it.  Most times, it slips away before I can even write it down, although I often write cryptic quotes on post-its and add them to my pile.  When I finally sit down at my computer, I’m often needed a few minutes later and this pattern continues through the day.

How about you?  Do you blog?  When do your write?  Do you ever feel guilty using your time for blogging?  Do you feel that you are ministering to other mothers by blogging?  How often do you post on your blog?  How do we find the balance?

And just in case you are interested, these are the books on my desk today, all in some state of being read:

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Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

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  1. Heidi
    March 24, 2011

    I'm working full time as a Social Worker right now and also working as a House Mom for child victims of sex trafficking. I'm also taking 2 courses in the evenings…which leaves me very little time for anything else. That being said…I'm SO glad others take the time to blog…I learn so much and hope I can give back in the same way someday! 🙂 I consider specific blogs (like this one) a very unique ministry!

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  2. rebekah
    March 24, 2011

    I have at least two 'big' posts pending. I started each and then stopped and never regained the momentum. I find it hard to write in spurts on the same post. I've realized one of the biggest adjustments to having kids is that I cannot complete a thought. And it's frustrating to be caught in mid thought with a stream of mom-mom-mom, etc. It's the same with writing. I do any writing after bedtime, but I only have about two hours before I hit the sheets, so yes, I do feel somewhat guilty at all I am not doing with that time. But always I know what I get from the blogging community. And so it is still a priority for me:) Btw, I don't think I ever find the right balance. And I can't multitask either, so I'm working on being ok with the feeling of dropping balls left and right.

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    1. Brandee
      March 27, 2011

      Just want to say, Rebekah, that I appreciate your comment and am w/ you in writing after bedtime; in experiencing some guilt about how I've spent that time (I usually have a sleeping baby in my arms but know I should make more of an effrt to put her down so as to go to bed w/ my husband…); in struggling to find the right balance; and in being NON-gifted in the multi-tasking arena.

      One thing that helps me is believing that my children will at some point appreciate my having recorded thoughts and stories from their childhood. My middle-schooler enjoys following my blog, now.

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  3. Cindy
    March 24, 2011

    I would love to hear more about the book "The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog." It keeps coming up on my recommendations, but I haven't braved it yet.

    BTW… I don't blog, I spend my time reading wonderful blogs like yours.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      March 24, 2011

      Cindy, it is a great book. I wrote a post about it last summer when I read it for the first time. Lately I've been looking up specific things as I need them.
      https://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trau

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  4. Lisa
    March 24, 2011

    Oh my goodness! That is EXACTLY how my days go! I do blog and yes, I will think of something I want to write and either someone is on my laptop doing math or spanish or I'm in the middle of my already behind housework. Then later I forget it. Makes me crazy! I have heard many writers keep a small notebook with them to jot down ideas. I'd probably leave it somewhere in the house and mean to go get it later and then still forget my idea. I would love to write half the day away. I mostly write about our kids and my faith, our upcoming adoption etc..

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      March 24, 2011

      A little notebook is a good idea — I may have to try it. I could even leave it on my desk, but only use it for what I call "blog fodder."

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  5. Donna
    March 24, 2011

    I have barely been able to blog due overwhelming circumstances here. I am not even organized at the moment to get post its done:( I blog when I have a moment. They are short and too the point and not too deep. Maybe someday, but not right now.

    thanks for the Jesus Storybook recommendation. We are loving it!

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      March 24, 2011

      Donna, it is nice to hear from you. I'm so glad you like the storybook as much as we do. I read it to the kids as part of our homeschool morning and we read it after dinner as well.

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  6. nancileamarie
    March 24, 2011

    I started one, but rarely post. Also just feel like I don't have time. But I love reading them! I can do that while I feed the baby–sometimes.

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  7. Wendy
    March 24, 2011

    If I putter around the house while the children are settling into bed, then they get up, and up, and up…so I sit, have a cup of tea, and do my website updating and blogging while they are settling in. Relaxing for me, not stimulating for the children. On occasion something will need updated right away, and the children just understand that Mommy is "at work" for a few minutes. 🙂

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  8. Coco of VidaCoco.com
    March 24, 2011

    I can relate to your situation completely! I have a blog on my website, so my biggest challenge is updating both of them with new content on a regular basis. It seems like every time I sit down in front of my computer to work on my website or blog, one of my kids will come to me to either tell me he's hungry or show me something. I get the most done at night after I've put my kids to bed or in the wee hours of the morning (I'm expecting my fourth in about 3 weeks and can't sleep through the night…). I don't really feel guilty about using my time to write because I see it as "me" time and a creative outlet.

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  9. Sara
    March 25, 2011

    Oh, let me add: I end up blogging about twice a week, but I also don't have any kids from hard places home yet…..so that could change! Each family and each season within a family can affect where the resources of time and energy and love are poured – sometimes into the world, but sometimes not.

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  10. Angela
    March 25, 2011

    "The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog" Is a great book! It was the first book I have read that I didn't need to look up a bunch of scientific words to truly understand what I was reading and I felt like "I got it" from the get go. I even had my husband read it and he sees our foster kids (and even some adults he meets) in a new light now. Bruce Perry did a great job!

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  11. Sara
    March 25, 2011

    While there's always a million other things I *should* be doing, I consider blogging my "water-cooler time" – that bit of chit-chat with others that happens without thinking about it in any other job. Stay at home mommies need that, too! I just recently had each year of blogs printed into books – the closest thing our family has to a scrapbook or journal and my husband thanked me last night for blogging as he flipped through the blog books! Now I want to blog more! 🙂

    My favorite part of blogging, though, is reading the day-to-day lives of women like you who are living out their faith in Jesus and are willing to share the good and the bad to encourage and inspire! Though there are limitations to any cyber-ministry, I also know from experience that God uses blogs for ministry in His kingdom. That is inspiration enough for me.

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  12. signe
    March 25, 2011

    I had just finished posting something when I saw the title of this post. I have struggled with why I blog, but in the end I decided that I do it for my children. My blog is very unorganized, and rambling, but it is a log of our life, and what I'm thinking about it. I have it printed every year, so that I will have something for the kids to read when they are grown. I love having this record, and have found it very helpful. It has also been a great relationship builder for family that live far away. They are still able to keep up with our lives.

    My blogging time is like yours, catch as catch can. But it is worth the time to keep this journal for your future family. And if it ministers to someone else, even better!

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  13. Sharon Wheeless
    March 25, 2011

    I also post whenever I can fit it in. With two kids, homeschooling, plus work it's difficult but well worth it. since adoption became part of our lives, my hope is that my blog will be an extension of our family ministry.

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      March 25, 2011

      Sharon, I agree that blogging can be ministry, both to our families and to one another. It is tough to squeeze it in, but worth it all. Personally, I have to remember why I do it and keep my mind focused on what is important. It's nice to hear from you. Love, love, love the picture of the envelope on your blog today.

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  14. Stephanie
    March 25, 2011

    I used to blog and then due to bad connections (after a move) and then moving again I find it hard. For the past couple of years I have wanted to blog been unable. But I have spent those rare internet connections reading blogs who educate and boost me up in raising our two beautiful Ghanaian boys. Please continue to blog without you I would not kow about the "Connect Child" or Dr. Purvis, or the Boy raised as a dog all of which has helped me understand and make important connections with them. You inpsire and teach. Some blogs just cry and complain about their children from "Hard Places" but you have educated which has made a mama and 2 boys better in so many ways. In two yearsI have seen such incredible and drastic changes – that would not have been made otherwise – because you spoke up and taught. I have sent many of those I know to your blog and offered the counsel you have given – and they too have seen changes. You are a voice in the dark for many!!! Your blog is one I ALWAYS go to no matter what. And then your personal emails or comments have been that much more! Thank You!

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      March 25, 2011

      Stephanie, I am so humbled by your words. Sometimes when I am writing I ask the Lord to keep me from saying one single word that would not honor him or bless my readers. Thank you for telling me how much my blog has served and helped your family. You've made my day and I am encouraged.

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  15. Ali
    March 26, 2011

    I haven't found time lately to blog, so there my blog sits without any new posts. I would like to know how these mom's of many do it!

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  16. Elizabeth
    March 26, 2011

    I do blog every day, for a variety of reason… I do hope I am ministering to others, plus it is a way to keep my parents who live far away connected to their grandchildren. Posting every day helps me to remember what my children have been up to and provides a way for me to process all the ideas swirling about my head. I find writing is a great way to really sort through an issue. I try to use the scheduled post function so that I can write when it fits in with my schedule and family and have it appear that I am writing regularly. Often I have a post completely writen in my head before I even sit down at the computer.

    con't.

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  17. Elizabeth
    March 26, 2011

    Part 2
    On the other topic… I have read three of the five on your reading list.

    – I love The Boy Who was Raised as a Dog and actually found it very hopeful.
    – I have always used AlphaPhonics and not 100 Easy Lessons mainly because I just couldn't get past the non-standard letter writing at the beginning of the book.
    -Dare I admit that I didn't love Grace-Based Parenting as much as everyone else? It has been several years since I read it so I don't have details, but I remember feeling a bit put-off by it. Not that I think his premise is wrong, but I think it was something in his presentation. I'd have to reread it to really be able to discuss it.

    I am completely intrigued by The Mallards and their Cousins. I've never heard of these books. Please share what you think of it when you have a chance!

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    1. One Thankful Mom
      March 26, 2011

      Elizabeth, thanks for the comments. I have barely begun Grace Based Parenting, so I don't have an opinion yet, but I will write about it, especially if I like it. The non-standard letters have never bothered me with 100 Easy Lessons. Generally my kids have stuck with it until we were all tired of the stories and then we moved on. Eby and Little Man still like it, so we're pressing on. The Mallards book was a gift from my sister-in-law and we read the first chapter last week. Ladybug had listened to her read it a couple of years ago and loved it. I love books and love hearing what other people are reading. Maybe we need a Tuesday Topic just about books we are all reading!

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  18. Julie
    March 29, 2011

    I think of posts all week long, but it seems that Saturday mornings are my best time to actually write. Otherwise, it is in the late evenings after my youngest is asleep. I blog because it's therapeutic to write. It helps me organize my thoughts and forces me to think clearly on a subject. It is also a record of our family, and I used it to keep my Mom informed when she was alive. I hope it is a ministry to others. I want to encourage people who are walking the same road, while being honest and transparent.

    I do feel guilty about spending time blogging (and reading blogs) when I should be cleaning, but I do consider it my "Mommy time", and I know it's good for my heart to get my thoughts on paper (or screen.) I'm naturally a reader and I learn so much from other moms. Friends like you are my lifeline.

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