Learning About Adoption by Simply Listening

I may have been a speaker, telling my story from the stage last weekend, but I was blessed to hear so many stories from the women I met during my travels and at Created for Care.


My weekend of storytelling began at the Seattle airport when two young moms asked if they could share my table. They were traveling to celebrate one of their birthdays and both left their babies for the very first time. We began to talk and when I said I was headed to a retreat for adoptive and foster moms, one of them lit up, saying she is interested in adoption.

That began a wonderful conversation about learning and preparing, praying, waiting for husbands to be ready, and waiting for God’s timing to be right. They were the sweetest and I loved my unexpected time with them.

At Created for Care, I had moments to engage in real conversations with some of the 450 women there. I heard mommas’ stories of fostering really hard kids and how their children have been affected, of starting ministries, of special needs and searching for resources, and so much more.

The retreat ended Sunday afternoon, but the stories didn’t.

I grabbed a ride to the airport with a new friend who told me her story of traveling to a country to meet her new children, only to know deep in her heart that they were not meant to be her sons and in the end, they were going to stay with their family. The Holy Spirit was preparing her for what was to come. Her courage in pursuing adoption again encouraged me.

At the Atlanta airport, I met another young mom from C4C. I heard her story of having lots of little boys all close in age, a combination of kids by birth and adoption. She wondered what life will look like when they were all teens – I just had to smile. That was a fun conversation.

This was a weekend filled with stories of God’s faithfulness, of struggle and courage, of perseverance and surrender, and most of all, love.

Every person has a story. Let’s learn to listen well.

To my new friends from Created for Care, thank you for finding me here. You can follow me on my Thankful Moms Facebook page. I also send a short, more personal, friends-letter most weekends, delivered right to your inbox. You can subscribe to that here. It’s short and sweet, I promise. I loved being with you last weekend – I hope we meet again!



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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.


  1. Sarah Tovah
    March 10, 2017

    Not sure where to write this, so I’ll just leave it here…I prayed for you in one of my letters to God yesterday. I prayed for God’s comfort for your family. I was looking for a way to focus off my own mental illness (that was keeping me from attending school that evening), and God provided a way through you. Thank you!

    1. Lisa Qualls
      March 11, 2017

      Thank you, Sarah. I’ve had a sad week, so I’m particularly grateful for your prayers.


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