Thank you to everyone who shared their answers to Lori’s question:
What date do you choose to celebrate as your “gotcha” day or “forever” day – or however you choose to name it?
We call our special day Forever Day which we celebrate on February 24th. Despite the fact that our children were adopted through two different agencies, lived at two different orphanages, had three different successful court dates, and three different dates when they arrived home to our family, we met them all on February 24th!
On the morning of February 24th 2007, we walked from our guest house to Dimples’ orphanage where we met her. She was full of life and had so much sparkle. There were so many children swirling around us, begging to be held, playing with things we had brought, but there was one older girl who was particularly sweet and I was touched by her. I didn’t know then that she was also going to become my daughter, and seventeen months later we would travel back to get her.
After meeting Dimples, we then drove to our boys’ orphanage where we met them for the first time. The first thing I did was take Little Man from the nanny’s arms and finish giving him the bottle. Eby was a little nervous, so we took things slower with him.
Rather than having multiple special days, we decided to celebrate the day we met the children as our Forever Day. This year I hope to cook Ethiopian food and we’ll have a small celebration. I think we’ll break out our Ethiopian drums, read some special books, and look at pictures from our trips. Like Leslie mentioned, especially with older children, there could be some resurfacing of grief or loss. Honeybee still misses many of her friends from her orphanage, so it is hard to say how she will feel as we look at pictures. But grief can be a good thing. We’ll just take it slow and keep it simple.
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