A Different Kind of Vacation

To everyone who prayed, thank you.  My time with Dimples was sweet and relaxed.  As we said our goodbyes, I hugged her close and said, “Let me ask you, how was last week?”  She nodded, “Good.”

“Did you have fun?”

“Yes.”

“Are you excited about this week and about going camping with Miss Neely and her family?”

She nodded again.

“Is this better for you than being at the beach?”

She nodded again and I squeezed her tight as I breathed in relief.  The very last thing I want is for Dimples to feel that this time of respite is punitive in any way.  She is having a different kind of vacation, not the relax… take long walks on the beach… read books… sleep late kind, rather the go to Costco… then to lunch… then drop the boys at football practice… then go see a movie kind of vacation.

Of course, despite my detailed planning, there was still a glitch.  One of Dimples’ medications couldn’t be refilled before we left on our trip, so I had the boys watch for the FedEx package and bring it along when they came this week. Unfortunately, we forgot to get it out of the car when we met at Kathleen’s and it ended up on the island.  A quick trip to the UPS store on Whidbey and $20.00 later, it is on it’s way to Neely’s; it should arrive before they leave on their camping trip.

I got back to the beach house to discover that our packed refrigerator and freezer (which the boys had just restocked with food they brought from our inexpensive grocery store in Idaho) was not working.  With lots of creative rearranging by my engineer husband, we were able to squeeze the most valuable and perishable foods into the refrigerator in the main house.  I hope to see a repairman today and not have too much food that doesn’t make it – the lettuce is already long gone.

There are foghorns in the distance this morning and the beach is enveloped in gray. I expect the sun will break through later, but sipping coffee in cozy pajamas is just right for the moment.  The beach house is filling with people we love and I’m shifting kids into different bedrooms today as we make room.  Amazingly, there are beds for everyone, although sometimes they like to share.  This morning there are four girls sleeping in the king-size water bed (yes, a water bed!) and today we’ll move a twin bed into that room for my niece who is arriving this afternoon.  Our special friend, Emily, is arriving today too – an infusion of joy.

It is nearly 8:00 and the children are still sleeping.  Bliss.

Lisa

 

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

9 Comments

  1. Emily
    August 7, 2012

    Love you all. Can't wait!

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  2. Mama D's Dozen
    August 7, 2012

    So glad that your family is having a very BLESSED vacation.

    It is so good that you recognize that a "vacation" for Dimples may just need to look different than what the rest of your family needs for vacation. And . . . that.is.okay.

    Maybe . . . Dimples needed a bit of "respite" from your family, just as your family needed respite from her.

    Sounds like your week is probably busy with family and friends, but I would love to drive down for lunch or something, if you have a few hours.

    Laurel 🙂

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      August 7, 2012

      Thank you, Laurel. Lunch may work – maybe later this week? Shoot me an email.

      Reply
  3. Jenny
    August 7, 2012

    Who needs lettuce anyways?

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      August 7, 2012

      Really! We should just live on chips and s'mores – it's vacation, after all.

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  4. Cari
    August 7, 2012

    I was thinking of you this morning, Lisa, as I dropped my daughter off for a week of camp. This came about from the advice you gave me to scheduled respite in this form if possible, and I am so glad that she agreed to try camp this month. This is her first experience of camp and being gone from me this long, so I truly hope that she enjoys it and views it as a vacation for herself. She already told me this morning that she was NOT planning on going next year {LOL}, but I know that was because of her anxiety about the unknown. I am looking forward to a week of rest and relaxation with the rest of the family here at home.

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  5. mamitaj
    August 7, 2012

    You are a great mom! You have provided the best vacation for everyone in your family, including yourself! Get some rest and relaxation. Enjoy yourself!

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  6. Damaris
    August 7, 2012

    So glad everyone seems to be getting what they need. You write so beautifully that I feel like I'm there with you… love the peaceful picture as well. (Not to make you jealous, but we all got up at 10AM today. Not bad for two 7 yr olds who went swimming for hours yesterday and then went to sleep at 10PM. My husband and I are loving it this vacation. Tomorrow is our 20th anniversary.)

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  7. sleepyknitter
    August 8, 2012

    So happy to hear that Dimples was pleased with her vacation. Blessings to you and all!

    Reply

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