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Comfort in her father’s arms – 2012

Thank you, friends, for leaving comments of hope and encouragement. God answered your prayers in an interesting way – my child got sick and couldn’t go to school. I was able to give more nurture and let her rest. I could make a long list of the many possible triggers, but Christmas and sickness are big enough to account for nearly anything. I have a strong sense that giving a loving, warm greeting this morning might secure our progress toward landing in a better place today.

Two years ago we had a very big crisis just before Christmas and I’m sure that is impacting all of us. While we don’t want to linger in the past, those memories don’t evaporate. We need to build good Christmas memories, year after year, and regain our sense of peace about celebrating this holiday together. 

A long conversation with a counselor who worked extensively with my child was especially helpful yesterday. She reminded me of some key points of my child’s struggles. She also encouraged me to follow up and have a conversation about what happened, attune to the true feelings, and explore the underlying issues. That is a weakness for me – when the hard stuff is over, I want to  move on and I find I’m hesitant to go back and work through it.

One of my goals this morning is to get a more secure plan in place for the days leading up to Christmas. Saturday is set, Sunday should be good, it’s Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday that are iffy. It’s time to make a list of the tasks necessary to prepare for Christmas – the fun (like baking cookies and decorating a gingerbread house) and the mundane (like cleaning). Some tasks will be assigned, but I’ll let the kids choose other ones they want to tackle.

And most of all – I need to keep life simple, simple, simple. Last night we read Jotham’s Journey with only a candle burning and a few white lights glowing in the room. My daughter leaned close to me and listened; we need more of these moments.

What are your plans for keeping the holidays peaceful for  your family? I would love to hear from you.

Have a wonderful day, friends.

Update: The morning began with hugs; I said, “It’s so great that every day is new with God – and it’s that way with us too.” The day is off to a good start – I am SO thankful.

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Lisa

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Let me introduce myself. Russ and I are the parents of twelve children by birth and adoption, and sometimes more through foster care. I'm the creator of One Thankful Mom which has been as much of a gift to me as to my readers. In 2011 I became a TBRI® Pracitioner* and have lived and breathed connected parenting ever since. I'm deeply honored to be the co-author, together with the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, of The Connected Parent; it is her final written work. I love speaking at events for adoptive and foster parents. I'm also the co-founder of The Adoption Connection, a podcast and resource site for adoptive moms. I mentor and encourage adoptive moms so you can find courage and hope in your journeys of loving your children well.

16 Comments

  1. Luann Yarrow Doman
    December 17, 2014

    Aren't you glad there are only 24 hours in a day? That way, when we encounter a bad one, we get another chance in 24 hours or less!

    Continuing to pray for your family this holiday season. We are attempting to keep it simple in a not-so-simple world. Lowering expectations, minimizing commitments, and focusing on family time..

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      December 17, 2014

      Every morning gives us an opportunity for a Do-over, and that is good news! Great ideas about keeping it simple, Luann.

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  2. Emily B
    December 17, 2014

    Brave Momma! You're doing great. I'm praying for you. Every single morning.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      December 17, 2014

      Thank you Emily!

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  3. Mary
    December 17, 2014

    I love this post, Lisa. So many things about it–the acknowledgement that as Moms we are learning to deal with our own triggers. The hope ahead that new memories can be built (even though old ones do not vanish). And I can just hear Dr. Purvis saying, "we need a do-over." That the true beauty of Christmas is he made another way. And though it is hard to learn, God is able and willing to show us another way. It takes practice, but the fact that another way is even made available to us is powerful. Thanks for finding time to jot down some notes during this time. It is encouraging to read your faithful words. Always.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      December 17, 2014

      Mary, I'm always encouraged by you too. Thank you.

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  4. musingsofabarrenwoman
    December 17, 2014

    That picture warms my heart

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      December 17, 2014

      Mine too. She looks so small and safe in Russ' arms.

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  5. Michelle
    December 17, 2014

    When I was little, even though Christmas was this joyous occasion, my past attacked me. While the "magic" of Christmas and all of the presents were exciting to some, for me, it just flooded back memories of insecurity and "not knowing". Surprises. What was in those presents? Would there be enough for me? Santa was really hard for me, because I felt he might not really hear me and left me burdened and anxious…as a 7 year old! Was I a good enough girl? So my parents told me the truth. Also, as sad as it sounds, Jesus birth was also hard for me. He was so WANTED and LOVED before he was even born! It always brought feelings of jealous and abandonment, until we worked those feelings out that I was loved and wanted, not only by everyone around me, but by God and Jesus too.
    All the best, thinking about you!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      December 17, 2014

      Michelle – thank you – so many insights into the heart a child. I really appreciate you sharing this and will be mulling it over in my mind.

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  6. Anita
    December 17, 2014

    So delighted to read this post. Ever since reading your last one, you've been on my mind and I've been praying for you! God hears and answers! 🙂

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      December 17, 2014

      Thank you so much for your prayers, Anita.

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  7. Kristi Jansma
    December 17, 2014

    We adopted a young sibling group of five two months ago. I was just sharing with my oldest biological daughter yesterday about how God has been working in my heart, reminding me that His mercies toward me are new every morning, and His desire is for me to give that same opportunity for a fresh start to my kids each morning as well. Your blog has been such an encouragement to me!

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      December 18, 2014

      Kristi, many blessings to you this Christmas – you are in the thick of a huge period of adjustment. I'm so glad my blog is helpful to you. I hope you have lots of support and people surrounding you with love.

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  8. emily
    December 18, 2014

    I struggle to get the right words out – in our family, Christmas is causing lots of "inconvenience." But the birth of Christ is an inconvenient miracle – both then and now. His birth demands our whole lives. I am trying to be especially grateful for God with us in the mess.

    We are not participating in many holiday activities, keeping electronics and screen time to a minimum, trying to make lots of room for physical activity, and de-emphasising gifts. We are trying and epically failing good sleep 😉

    Continued prayers for you and yours.

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    1. Lisa Qualls
      December 18, 2014

      Emily, so true – God came to be with us in our mess. I am eternally grateful.

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