We interrupt this vacation to remind you that your son has significant sensory processing challenges which flare up when there are just too many people in close proximity.
One of the things I love about vacation is being together as a family, and frankly, we’ve been together a whole lot. Once Russ got here, he added some adventure with the catamaran and bikes and we’ve been able spread out a little, but prior to his arrival, we were clustered together like grapes.
Eby was growing tense, and getting sharp with his words. He was very quickly frustrated and needed help staying regulated and calm. Then we had two days of rain and it was a bit more than he could bear.
The outburst caught me by surprise, although in hindsight (which doesn’t feel particularly helpful), I could have preempted the entire thing if I had just been more perceptive. As the rain (and tears) came down, I asked Eby, “Do you want to go for a walk?” He did, so I dug through a duffle, pulling out raincoats.
Then I remembered a sweet thing, just the day before we had gone to our favorite thrift store where I found a darling pair of Ladybug rain boots – in my size. I bought them thinking I would use them to run to the mailbox this fall; but God knew I would need them sooner. This still makes me smile and feel a little bit loved.
Eby and I headed out in the rain, and in a short time, my grumpy boy was calmer. We walked slowly down the hill, watching the water flow, carrying leaves with it, and then spilling over the edges of an overflowing drain. We made our way to the hillside covered with blackberries, where we picked the plump ones and popped them in our mouths. Eby even let me put a berry in his mouth – although it took a few tries.
As we headed back to the house, he held my hand for just a moment, and my heart swelled. I found a solution in a tough moment, and it felt just right.
Questions: Do you have a child(ren) with Sensory Process Disorder? What tips/tools are helpful to you.