It’s been a while since we had a Tuesday Topic – this week, we hear from an adoptive single mom of three teens:
I’m a single adoptive Mom to three – ages 17, 17 and 12. I work full time, try to get kids to therapy, med reviews, probation, and court. We juggle as many as seven social workers and respite providers. Obviously we are surrounded by dedicated folks trying to help me and the kids succeed.
BUT, despite this, I have never been successful getting the kids to help around the house. Not only will they not do dishes, take out garbage or clean the living room, but they won’t make their own beds, put clothes away, or collect laundry. All three can do these things, I’ve taught them and have seen them do so, though usually under duress. This summer they are just hanging out, eating, sleeping and playing video games. Won’t do even the few little things I ask. I get frustrated and yell, they shut down even more. What provisions should I make?