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Today I am blogging over at Grown in My Heart, about “What if Jesus Has HIV.” Go on over and take a look.

I have a little family tidbit to share.  Eby came home from Ethiopia with a good case of a scalp fungal infection.  We tried to treat it a few times, but it kept creeping back.  Then last winter, we noticed that Little Man had some bald spots on his head…as we looked closely, we could see the familiar fungus we knew and did not love.

Our doctor prescribed another medication for the boys which they would take for four to six weeks.  I talked with the pharmacist who was going to order it and she told me that the cash price for four weeks of meds for one of the boys was $1400; with our insurance, it was still several hundred.  When she asked


Honeybee now has 65 braids in her lovely hair. Hair is very important to my girls and I’m doing my best to learn how to work with it. I’ve made my share of mistakes and there are too many days when the girls look a little frizzy, or downright messy, but considering I’ve never been into hair, I feel pretty good about how far I’ve come.

Fortunately, Sweet Pea helped me braid before she moved to Seattle yesterday. With both of us braiding, it still took hours to get both girls done. I’m hoping it lasts for awhile! Having the pool closed will help, as will having Honeybee and Dimples sleep in satin caps.

Best of all, Honeybee feels beautiful and is thrilled with her pretty beads.

If you need helpful advice about how to do your daughter’s hair, try the Shuruba website. Her videos have been a great resource for me.

~Lisa

Honeybee with big curls last week

Honeybee’s curls eight months ago

A friend commented (on the post about Dimples’ hair) that she loved the way Honeybee wore her hair in a dance recital last week. It was big, curly, and beautiful. I liked it too.

I tried to find a good picture to show how fabulous Honeybee’s hair was that day, but didn’t have one that did it justice. However, I love the picture of her with the floral crown – her curls are incredible. Today she pulled her hair up into one big puff and it looks great.

You can also see that she is losing a bit of her baby roundness and is looking more grown up. How can it happen so quickly? She gets more beautiful by the day.

And lest I get my hopes up too soon, I’m only going to whisper this…..does it look like I may actually have one child who isn’t going to need braces????

~Lisa


Dimples’ hair requires braids nearly all the time in order to avoid hours of combing out painful tangles. When it was shorter, I could pop a cute headband on her head and her curls were darling. As it has grown, those darling curls have become a source of pain, and yet having long hair is important to her. The result is that most of the time I unbraid, wash, condition, comb, and rebraid all in one day.

I LOVE seeing her hair loose and free – it is so beautiful. The picture above was taken after I spent over an hour taking her braids out last week. This week I am letting her scalp rest and have it in four braids with no elastics next to her scalp.

Honeybee’s hair has a different texture and doesn’t tangle nearly as much. It is a little bit curlier and a tiny bit coarser, but still very soft. It also isn’t as long as Dimples’ yet, so we’ll see what the future holds. Being ten, she is able to manage her hair more than Dimples can at seven years old. I’ll have to find pictures to post of her hair before she came home and some recent ones; her hair is also growing quickly.

Hair is very important to women of color, and I am learning more all the time. In the orphanage, the girls’ hair was shaved regularly, so having long enough hair for braids, especially with beads on the ends, is a source of great happiness to them. I only wish I were faster at braiding!

Dimples’ hair was much shorter two years ago on the day we met.

One day Dimples will be old enough to manage her own hair and I hope I’ll get to see it loose more often.


~Lisa

Sweet Pea and I took a leap of faith in our hair braiding adventure and tried cornrows with beads in Dimples’ hair. As you can see from the picture above (and the last one in this post), our efforts produced a frenzy of braiding on dolls and ponies and beads scattered all over my house.

We began by watching two short video clips about cornrows on the Shuruba website and then sat Dimples down in front of a movie and started in. We loved the look of one braid in front, so we did that one first.

This was taken the following morning and you can see the five wide cornrows that are already getting a little fuzzy.

Then we braided the back into box braids and put beads on each braid as we went. We didn’t have a nifty beading tool, so we used a flexible hair pin and adapted it to work. It works like a device for threading a needle. Having used this technique, I have since ordered four braiding tools from Snapaholics and I look forward to being able to load it up with beads for several braids at once.


It was dark by the time we finished the back of her head and we still had cornrows to begin. Despite moving a floor lamp right next to us and removing its shade, it was still very difficult to see the braids as we worked. For my “over-forty” eyes, braiding needs to be done during daylight hours whenever possible.

We decided to see how it would look with only five cornrows and when we were done we concluded that it would have been much better with smaller braids, but we could not take it out and start in again – it was past Dimples’ bedtime and nearing mine!

Dimples came downstairs the following morning swinging her head and smiling in delight over the clicky-clacky sound her beads produced. She was beaming, and while I was pleased, the cornrows were already looking fuzzy and I knew I was not going to be satisfied until I turned those five into ten smaller braids. So, that night we turned on the same movie and I braided them again with a little help from Sweet Pea. This was the final result which, although not fantastic, looks pretty good to me:

Ladybug has been doing her share of braiding and beading, which has produced many requests from Dimples and Boo for dolls with “real hair”. I’m hoping to find some that I can tuck away for a gift while we are in Ethiopia. A new doll, along with some pretty beads, might be just the thing for easing a sad day of missing Mamma and Daddy.


I can’t end this post without adding another plug for our AHOPE t-shirts. Due to the generosity of the company producing and shipping our shirts, we receive a significant donation for each shirt you purchase. Not only that, when you wear an AHOPE t-shirt you promote our work of caring for HIV+ orphans in Ethiopia and looking great at the same time.

We have already added a women’s style shirt and more colors, so please take a look and buy a shirt or two (or ten) to support the children of AHOPE.

Thank you for stopping by!

~Lisa




If you know me in real life, you will be utterly shocked by these photos. I’ve gotten inspired, and with Sweet Pea by my side, we are having fun trying new things with Dimples’ hair. I watched a video clip on the Shuruba website and saw that even the way she held her hands and did a simple braid was different from the way I learned to braid as a child. I tried it her way and I got the strangest physical memory, if it can be described that way, of how it felt to hold yarn in my hands and knit. I knew then that I just might learn to love doing my girls’ hair.

I don’t get to knit these days, but there was a time in my life when I really enjoyed it. For a person who had never done anything crafty, it was great to find knitting, which didn’t demand extreme precision and was lenient enough to allow for ripping out and trying again (unlike demanding and unfriendly counted cross-stitich) . Of course, Dimples does not like to me take things out and try again, but sometimes I have to. One important thing I’ve learned, however, is never try to pull the elastics out, just cut them and throw them away. Pulling them out breaks hair and causes loud crying, both of which are no fun.

These pictures show a veil style which I think is very pretty. Our original plan was to do simple box braids down the back, but we ran out of time, so I stuck everything in a curly ponytail. I’ll try the box braids next time. I just might get bold enough to try some beads which Dimples will love.

And don’t forget, our court date is June 24th, which is Monday night for us. Please join us in praying that Miss B. becomes our daughter and we get happy news on Tuesday or Wednesday . When we pass court I’ll finally be able to post some pictures!

~Lisa