There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage. Martin Luther
Last month, Russ and I got away for a few days to be refreshed and spend time devoted to our marriage and one another. Over these past weeks we’ve returned to some of our conversations again as we think about how to continue growing our marriage into the beautiful, God-honoring relationship we want it to be. We’re not willing to settle for a marriage that is “good enough.” We want a marriage that is glorious.
As in all of life, it is easy to get sloppy and fall into poor communication, leave things undone, leave other things unforgiven, and neglect to love our spouses more than we love ourselves. Our lives are full, and the past five years in particular, Russ and I have intensely focused our energy on the needs of our children. Now, as we find ourselves coming up for air, we can see how the lack of attention has allowed little piles of trash, dusty corners, and low walls to build up.
We’re doing some spring cleaning on our marriage – clearing out the rubbish, tearing down bricks that don’t belong, and looking a little more closely at our relationship. We’re seeking less efficiency and a little more joy. We’re being gentler with one another, and I am working harder at watching my tongue -which is prone to be sharp. Last weekend we went to a presceening of a movie together, while our normal default would have been for one of us to stay home and one to go because it is too hard to leave Dimples. We also took a walk, watched a movie, went to a party, stayed up too late – all for the joy of being together.
Marriage is long, friends, and we want ours to be overflowing with kindness toward one another. We want to laugh more, talk more, listen more, serve one another better, and see our love grow richer and deeper.
Let’s heave the trash out the door, sweep our floors, and dust away the cobwebs. Spring is coming and with it comes new life.