Today is the big day! I’ve launched my brand new site, Thankful Moms, with my writing partner, Jennifer. We can’t wait to see you there! Click on the link below and come on over!
We hope you enjoy a few of our recent internet wanderings.
News that Makes You Run from Brooke Mardell (meant for Easter, but so good we had to share)
I will never forget the sound of his flip-flops as they raced down the hall and into the waiting room, not pausing to round the corners, coming at full speed to my side, where both of our messy tears and words rambled through a series of “I heard he was gone? But that now he’s alive?”
5 Game-Changing Attitudes to Take Into IEP Meetings from Confessions of an Adoptive Parent
We wanted to march into the meeting and let this teacher have it. I wanted her fired. How dare she do that to us! How dare she let this go on for weeks and not call us! We stomped around our house, ranting and raving. We went to bed, still fuming. But the next morning, when it came time for the meeting, we decided to change our attitude.
Your Biggest Expense is Your Greatest Opportunity from becoming minimalist
When the rest of the world was building bigger and bigger, we decided to buy smaller. And that decision has freed us to do many wonderful things.
When I Didn’t Love My Adopted Child from Brandy Lee at Christianity Today
When Nora joined our family, I expected to have hard days… I just didn’t expect months of them back-to-back. My heart got ugly. I went from disappointed to barely surviving to bitter and defeated.
A Prayer for a Hopeful Vision from Emily P. Freeman
In response to our last Tuesday Topic, a friend messaged me with this question.
Just curious how I should handle a child who acts out in order to get “time in” with me. When she wants my attention she will act out so that she gets to be near me.
That’s a very good question, one I’m sure therapists would answer in a variety of ways.
I would love to offer a formula for how to deal with this problem, but our children are unique and no matter how hard we try, they just don’t fit into tidy formulas.
That being said, there are a few things I think about when my kids use difficult behavior to get my attention.
Our kids are always speaking to us, sometimes with words, and quite often with their behavior. When my child is disrespectful, dysregulated, or disinclined to be pleasant (I had to add one more dis- word) he is speaking in a language I need to understand.
So, how do we respond?
Early Sunday morning, as we were preparing to celebrate the resurrection of our savior, Russ’ dad went to be with Jesus. He lived a remarkable life full of adventure. In every moment of his life, he was looking for ways to serve the Lord he loved so well.
Russ’ parents live in Mexico most of the year, so Russ is on his way to Guadalajara now to be with his mom and help in the coming days.
Earlier this week, Russ and I were talking about evaluating our life again – refocusing and making sure we are putting our hearts into the important – like the people we love. The urgent is always calling, and we don’t want it to control our lives.
Friends, life is short. I’ve lost three people I love very much in the past 15 months. I’m flooded with emotion and feel compelled to live my life in a way that honors God.
This evening I was talking with Mimi, and she said, “I can just picture Kalkidan running up to Grandpa with a huge smile, grabbing him by the hand and saying, ‘Come on! I can’t wait to show you everything!'”
Thank you for the many prayers you’ve offered for our family. Please hold Russ, his mom, his siblings and all the rest of us in your prayers in the coming days.
Hug your family close.
Wandering along Useless Bay on Whidbey Island, Washington.
Enjoy some of our favorite recent internet wanderings…
Take Up Your Bed and Walk from Tracie Loux
This is grief. Unpredictable, unexpected, unanticipated. I had someone tell me, “If I knew the wave was coming, I would be more ready.” But the grieving heart rarely has the luxury of preparation, with the exception of those “anniversaries” and trigger dates, we simply don’t know when it’s coming.
What is an Enough List and How it Helped Me Enjoy Every Day from Storyline Blog
Some days are messy. Some days nothing goes according to plan. That’s just life. It doesn’t mean I’m disorganized or lazy or behind, it means I’m living…
How to Make a Home When You’re Feeling Depressed from Sarah Mae
There are no rules with how you have to clean your home. We are all different, and we all go through different seasons, and during the dark ones, take it extra slow and steady. No rush. I’ve said this before, and I’ll say it again: Slow, seek Him in the still place. Steady, lean on the firm One.
What the Cross has Meant to Me from Beth Moore
Any and every victorious moment I ever experience is by the power of the cross. That the enemy did not and still has not destroyed me is by the power of the cross. The power of the cross saved me as a child and it saves me as an adult. It will save me in my death and, through its crimson gate, His glorious resurrection will raise me in God’s presence.
Free Printable: Perfect for Easter from The Harper House
This lovely free printable is available at The Harper House.
How do we move forward without moving away?
Saturday we took down the bunk beds in Kalkidan’s room. It’s taken us a long time to feel ready.
Kalkidan loved bright colors, which suited her personality. Last summer Samuel painted the room yellow and then Kalkidan picked out the bright bedding. She chose the bottom bunk with the bright chevron striped comforter. Although Claire shared a bedroom with Annarose, most nights she slept in Kalkidan’s room on the top bunk, so Kalkidan picked out a comforter for her bed too.
Enjoy some our favorite recent internet wanderings…
I Think I’ll Choose Weak, Today from Every Bitter Thing is Sweet
If you walked into my kitchen at 5pm in the winter after we’d completed one of our adoptions you might have thought we were ruined. I surely did.
Why I Wear the Same Thing Each Day from Her View from Home
I remember how my grandmother, now 89-years-old, responded to my mother’s end of season clearances purchases with this perspective: “Would you buy an elephant if it were only a dollar?”
A Playlist for the Nervous Traveler from emily p. freeman
It was in this moment that I realized I needed to be more prepared next time. In moments of potential panic, I have very specific requirements for the kind of music that is allowed to sing to me in my ears. It was time to create an official Turbulence Playlist.
The Love Your Home Spring Challenge from The Inspired Room
I find that making a commitment to simple daily progress around the home is what most effortlessly transforms it and improves how I feel about my surroundings. And if we are all doing these same daily projects together, we can feel more inspired!
[This challenge began a few weeks ago, but you can start any time. I began the middle of last week.]
I’m not an authority on grief. In fact, I’m stumbling through it most of the time. The support of family and friends has kept me going on many days. Just last week, when I was overwhelmed with sorrow, a sweet friend came by with flowers, a colorful balloon, and a mocha.
Many days I want to be alone, and I’m often hesitant to answer the phone, but texts are easy to receive. If you have a friend who is in a difficult time, a few simple words might be just what she needs.
Here are 15 texts that she might like to receive.
1. You are on my mind today.
2. I’m thinking of your child and how much she made me smile.
We hope you enjoy some of our wanderings from this week.
How to Determine the Worth of a Foster Parent from Confessions of an Adoptive Parent
When you are a foster parent, you step into the darkest time in a family’s life. You get a front row seat to someone else’s embarrassment, shame and failure. Through court hearings, case conferences and supervised visits, we have only the goal of supporting a family through their turbulent time. We are distinctly separate from the biological family, yet deeply connected. When the case is finally over and a child is returned home or placed for adoption, it is likely the foster family will not be receiving a yearly Christmas card. Foster parents represent a memory most would rather forget.
Real Life Minimalists: Cindy from Miss Minimalist
It wasn’t until a few years later, that I wondered why all this happened. I realized that I bought things and said “yes” because I was lonely and I wanted to “fit in” with my family and friends. I had to get comfortable with being myself and find a new set of friends. I was clearing my calendar too; I was making room for things about which I was enthusiastic. Afterall, the word enthusiasm means, “God within us.”