Good news! We are scheduled for an intensive at The Attachment and Trauma Center of Nebraska for the week of September 17 – 21. It’s wonderful and a little scary to travel to an unknown place for Dimples’ treatment, but we are very hopeful that EMDR will bring significant healing to her. I’ll have lots more to share on EMDR as we learn, and I’ll definitely document our experience.
I love blog comments for many reasons – I know my words aren’t just disappearing into a void. You really are out there! I also value your thoughts on what I am sharing; comments create something of a forum here. I get to learn from you, share your experiences, and in this small way, we do life together.
Ann left a comment on a recent post (My Learning Curve: Strangely Quiet) that I think is worth mentioning. I was writing about the constant talking that some of our children from “hard places” exhibit. Sometimes they develop a “loop” about a certain topic that becomes their default when they don’t know what else to talk about. In Dimples case, it is most often about her birthday.
I feel called to mention that this kind of endless looping might be helped with medication. While there’s obviously a psychological cause at work–and therapy plus behavior modification can work wonders–there may well be a biological, brain-chemistry cause as well. Only meds can address that piece of the problem, and the benefits could be life-altering for Dimples and your family.
We know that trauma causes physical changes in the brain. We wouldn’t deny insulin to a child, but many well-meaning people are unaware of the fact that mental illness is also a physical illness, and one that can be helped medically. Forgive me if you’ve already looked into this…
I appreciate Ann bringing this up because I agree that behaviors like this may be helped by medication. I would encourage any parent with a child who is really struggling to seek professional help and create a team that includes a medical professional, such as a psychiatrist, who can provide insight into the finer details of brain chemistry. I read a comment on a parenting forum by a mom who said that a year ago she didn’t know the difference between a psychologist and psychiatrist – I had to smile. It’s amazing the way our worlds expand as we parent our children. And in case you’re wondering, a psychiatrist is a medical doctor with an MD, and a psychologist has a PhD or PsyD in psychology.
There are nine people sitting in the living room around me making it a little hard to concentrate on writing – but providing all kinds of interesting side conversations. Russ has hidden away in his “office” to work with few distractions. One of the great things about being a professor is that he can take much of his work wherever he goes – as long as he has good internet access.
I am going to order more school books today and do a little more homeschooling prep. Hopefully the sun will come out soon and the kids will spend hours playing on the beach. A trip to the super fun thrift store may in order as well.
Thanks so much for reading,