Comments on: The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/the-boy-who-was-raised-as-a-dog/ Honest reflections on the challenges and blessings of love. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:28:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jennifer http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/the-boy-who-was-raised-as-a-dog/comment-page-1/#comment-5467 Jennifer Sat, 31 Jul 2010 18:41:01 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2786#comment-5467 Thanks for the honesty about vacations. One of our daughters has "sabotaged" our vacations for 4 years. Well, to be fair, that means our experience did not meet our own expectations. This year she did much better. I love that quote about the longer the trauma, the more repetitions it takes to gain balance. Frankly vacations are a lot of work because of the diligence necessary when we are out of our routine but hopefully, looking back, all the kids will have broadened their world and have great memories. Great picture of your daughter smiling from the inside out. Beautiful! Thanks for the honesty about vacations. One of our daughters has "sabotaged" our vacations for 4 years. Well, to be fair, that means our experience did not meet our own expectations. This year she did much better. I love that quote about the longer the trauma, the more repetitions it takes to gain balance. Frankly vacations are a lot of work because of the diligence necessary when we are out of our routine but hopefully, looking back, all the kids will have broadened their world and have great memories.

Great picture of your daughter smiling from the inside out. Beautiful!

]]> By: Susan http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/the-boy-who-was-raised-as-a-dog/comment-page-1/#comment-5466 Susan Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:40:01 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2786#comment-5466 I'm ordering this ASAP. As a former biologist, I have no problem with looking at this from an evolutionary standpoint. In fact, it's helpful and comforting. Thanks for recommending it! I'm ordering this ASAP. As a former biologist, I have no problem with looking at this from an evolutionary standpoint. In fact, it's helpful and comforting. Thanks for recommending it!

]]> By: Jillian http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/the-boy-who-was-raised-as-a-dog/comment-page-1/#comment-5465 Jillian Sat, 31 Jul 2010 01:07:39 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2786#comment-5465 This is on my "to read" list, thanks for the rec...I will actually get to it now :) One thing I have had to tell myself over and over again is "scared kids do scary things"...it is from "Beyond Consequences"....and it is the story of the last 18 months for us :) This is on my "to read" list, thanks for the rec…I will actually get to it now :) One thing I have had to tell myself over and over again is "scared kids do scary things"…it is from "Beyond Consequences"….and it is the story of the last 18 months for us :)

]]> By: learningpatience http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/the-boy-who-was-raised-as-a-dog/comment-page-1/#comment-5464 learningpatience Fri, 30 Jul 2010 18:40:40 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2786#comment-5464 Oh no! Another book on my reading list! Eek! (Really, thanks for the recommendation!) Oh no! Another book on my reading list! Eek! (Really, thanks for the recommendation!)

]]> By: Debbie http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/the-boy-who-was-raised-as-a-dog/comment-page-1/#comment-5463 Debbie Fri, 30 Jul 2010 02:46:07 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2786#comment-5463 I really liked this book. I had a problem with his evolutionary views, but he has got the kids behavior and needs right on. I am not a "structured" person by nature, but we tend to have quite a bit of structure in our house and it helps. Sameness - good sameness, over and over again -- it is helping. DEB I really liked this book. I had a problem with his evolutionary views, but he has got the kids behavior and needs right on. I am not a "structured" person by nature, but we tend to have quite a bit of structure in our house and it helps. Sameness – good sameness, over and over again — it is helping.

DEB

]]> By: April http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/the-boy-who-was-raised-as-a-dog/comment-page-1/#comment-5462 April Fri, 30 Jul 2010 01:06:24 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2786#comment-5462 Lisa, Do you have any recommendations on how to TEACH impulse control to a child who has suffered trauma? Grace (Prim) does not think before she acts in so many situations and I can tell her a million times not to do something and she does it any way regardless of how big or small. She acts according to her "wants" instead of a desire to be obedient. It's like she can't help herself! She is incredibly impulsive and also has a hard time being still in any situation. She doesn't walk. She falls, skips, jumps. I know she's only four but self control is such an important skill for her! Any suggestions or a good book? April Lisa,
Do you have any recommendations on how to TEACH impulse control to a child who has suffered trauma? Grace (Prim) does not think before she acts in so many situations and I can tell her a million times not to do something and she does it any way regardless of how big or small. She acts according to her "wants" instead of a desire to be obedient. It's like she can't help herself! She is incredibly impulsive and also has a hard time being still in any situation. She doesn't walk. She falls, skips, jumps. I know she's only four but self control is such an important skill for her!
Any suggestions or a good book?
April

]]> By: OneThankfulmom http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/the-boy-who-was-raised-as-a-dog/comment-page-1/#comment-5461 OneThankfulmom Thu, 29 Jul 2010 15:08:42 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2786#comment-5461 Sandie, that is so funny. Russ said he hoped I would quickly explain the title of the post! Sandie, that is so funny. Russ said he hoped I would quickly explain the title of the post!

]]> By: Sandie http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/the-boy-who-was-raised-as-a-dog/comment-page-1/#comment-5459 Sandie Thu, 29 Jul 2010 07:54:11 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2786#comment-5459 I was wondering where this post was going when I read the title and scrolled downand saw the photo of your lovely husband!!! :) I was wondering where this post was going when I read the title and scrolled downand saw the photo of your lovely husband!!! :)

]]> By: Amy http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/the-boy-who-was-raised-as-a-dog/comment-page-1/#comment-5458 Amy Wed, 28 Jul 2010 01:21:02 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2786#comment-5458 I love this book! Read it when it first came out as I am a big fan of Bruce Perry! I love this book!
Read it when it first came out as I am a big fan of Bruce Perry!

]]> By: Signe http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/the-boy-who-was-raised-as-a-dog/comment-page-1/#comment-5457 Signe Tue, 27 Jul 2010 23:12:59 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2786#comment-5457 I thought it was a great book. It was very affirming as a parent that ultimately what children need is healthy families, not a lifetime of therapy. It gave me confidence that loving my adopted kids needs to look like loving my bio kids, I just need to add an extra measure of grace. I didn't find his evolutionary bias overly distracting, since what he was saying was so centered around healthy families, and healthy communities. I would recommend it to anyone who deals with children in any capacity. Sometimes the children you are working with have trauma histories and you don't know it. Call when you get home. I thought it was a great book. It was very affirming as a parent that ultimately what children need is healthy families, not a lifetime of therapy. It gave me confidence that loving my adopted kids needs to look like loving my bio kids, I just need to add an extra measure of grace. I didn't find his evolutionary bias overly distracting, since what he was saying was so centered around healthy families, and healthy communities. I would recommend it to anyone who deals with children in any capacity. Sometimes the children you are working with have trauma histories and you don't know it.

Call when you get home.

]]>