I’m on a educational journey, and I hope you don’t mind coming along for the ride. Spending a weekend in Dimples’ cottage, where every moment is part of therapy, gave me opportunities to observe. I watched the staff working with the other kids, interacting with each other, and was aware of how they interacted with us. It was warm, direct, intense at times, and always focused on healing.
As usual, I have so much to say, but let me share one tip we observed and are implementing at home, particularly with Eby and Little Man. When things get chaotic, or a child is out of control, we’re saying, “Take a seat.” All of the kids in the room are required to sit down on the floor where they are, cross-legged with hands in their laps. For me, this is a way of saying, “Hold on, things are getting crazy, sit down and pause while we regain some calm.”
We practiced this last night with all of the younger kids, and in my first day of applying it, I said, “Take a seat,” four times. Only once did I have everyone sit, the other three times the phrase was intended for Eby who gets incredibly dysregulated in a very short amount of time. We’ve neglected so much of his behavior as we’ve struggled with Dimples, and now, the focus is on him. Obviously, we’re doing therapeutic parenting with Bee, and the rest of the crew, but it is imperative that we work with Eby.
Tonight at dinner, Eby was disrespectful as we came to the table. “Try that again with respect,” led to a disrespectful face, which led to “Take a seat.” He sat down and waited there while we served dinner, then joined us at the table a few minutes later when he was calm.
Give it a whirl and let me know how it goes with your crew.
I’m off to Spokane with Ladybug and Sunshine for orthodontist appointments. The little boys are coming along for the ride, and I’m wondering if either of them will need to “Take a seat” in the office. It remains to be seen.
Have a great day.