Comments on: Monday’s Answers: Tips for Hard Days http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/mondays-answers-tips-for-hard-days/ Honest reflections on the challenges and blessings of love. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:28:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Kylee http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/mondays-answers-tips-for-hard-days/comment-page-1/#comment-5138 Kylee Sat, 26 Jun 2010 14:24:21 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2628#comment-5138 Thank you...awesome tips all. I am just adjusting to my fourth child, second daughter, second adoption...and being home 24/7 with all four this summer. I needed these words! Thank you…awesome tips all. I am just adjusting to my fourth child, second daughter, second adoption…and being home 24/7 with all four this summer. I needed these words!

]]> By: Julie http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/mondays-answers-tips-for-hard-days/comment-page-1/#comment-5105 Julie Thu, 24 Jun 2010 21:01:56 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2628#comment-5105 I'm way late on this...but, CHANGE OF VENUE! Sometimes we just need to get out of the house and go somewhere else. :-) I'm way late on this…but,

CHANGE OF VENUE!

Sometimes we just need to get out of the house and go somewhere else. :-)

]]> By: Kathie http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/mondays-answers-tips-for-hard-days/comment-page-1/#comment-5098 Kathie Thu, 24 Jun 2010 15:02:44 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2628#comment-5098 LOVE all the ideas!. Thanks everyone for sharing. LOVE all the ideas!. Thanks everyone for sharing.

]]> By: OneThankfulmom http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/mondays-answers-tips-for-hard-days/comment-page-1/#comment-5022 OneThankfulmom Tue, 22 Jun 2010 23:59:21 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2628#comment-5022 Laurel, I hear you! We have Quiet Hour every day after lunch and I love the few moments of peace. It is very restorative. Laurel, I hear you! We have Quiet Hour every day after lunch and I love the few moments of peace. It is very restorative.

]]> By: Laurel http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/mondays-answers-tips-for-hard-days/comment-page-1/#comment-5017 Laurel Tue, 22 Jun 2010 20:11:02 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2628#comment-5017 Just have to say ... I liked Dorothy's advice (in the post), to take a Mommy Time Out. I homeschool my children, and still have 6 at home (and because of a work situation, we have been apart from our dear husband/daddy for the past 2.5 months), and we regularly have a 2 hour QUIET TIME in the afternoon. (My at-home kids are currently 8, 8, 10, 11, 13, 17) It used to be that was when mama and the babies took their naps. Now, we have no more babies, but mama still needs a break (especially from RAD issues). So, if the children have all had a good morning of school work and being respectful to each other, they may be allowed to play a game quietly together while mama goes to her room to read or rest. If there are any behavioral issues going on that day, the children are divided up (each in a room to themselves) for a quiet time of reading, lego building or coloring. When we had preschoolers, we chose to allow our children to stay up later in the evening than most families (so that they could have daddy-time) and then our children took daily afternoon naps until they were 6 or 7 years old. With a dozen children, Mama just needs her nap time or quiet reading time, in order to make it through the day. Well ... looks like it's almost time for Mama's Quiet Time ... I think I'll go read Red Letters. Laurel :) Just have to say … I liked Dorothy's advice (in the post), to take a Mommy Time Out.

I homeschool my children, and still have 6 at home (and because of a work situation, we have been apart from our dear husband/daddy for the past 2.5 months), and we regularly have a 2 hour QUIET TIME in the afternoon. (My at-home kids are currently 8, 8, 10, 11, 13, 17) It used to be that was when mama and the babies took their naps. Now, we have no more babies, but mama still needs a break (especially from RAD issues). So, if the children have all had a good morning of school work and being respectful to each other, they may be allowed to play a game quietly together while mama goes to her room to read or rest. If there are any behavioral issues going on that day, the children are divided up (each in a room to themselves) for a quiet time of reading, lego building or coloring.

When we had preschoolers, we chose to allow our children to stay up later in the evening than most families (so that they could have daddy-time) and then our children took daily afternoon naps until they were 6 or 7 years old. With a dozen children, Mama just needs her nap time or quiet reading time, in order to make it through the day.

Well … looks like it's almost time for Mama's Quiet Time … I think I'll go read Red Letters.

Laurel :)

]]> By: TheMamaHen http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/mondays-answers-tips-for-hard-days/comment-page-1/#comment-5016 TheMamaHen Tue, 22 Jun 2010 19:57:11 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2628#comment-5016 If you really are about to lose it, it can help to grab a camera and take a picture. Especially if there is a big mess involved. It helps find the humor in the situation sometimes and is usually totally unexpected. It has stopped a tantrum cold sometimes for me. If you really are about to lose it, it can help to grab a camera and take a picture. Especially if there is a big mess involved. It helps find the humor in the situation sometimes and is usually totally unexpected. It has stopped a tantrum cold sometimes for me.

]]> By: Tonya http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/mondays-answers-tips-for-hard-days/comment-page-1/#comment-5011 Tonya Tue, 22 Jun 2010 11:19:02 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2628#comment-5011 I sometimes just try to think of the moment before me - not all the many tasks I still have to do this day (or want to do). Take this moment to be fully present with my children. I like the comment about breathing as that also helps too. I sometimes just try to think of the moment before me – not all the many tasks I still have to do this day (or want to do). Take this moment to be fully present with my children. I like the comment about breathing as that also helps too.

]]> By: sandee http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/mondays-answers-tips-for-hard-days/comment-page-1/#comment-5010 sandee Tue, 22 Jun 2010 02:31:29 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2628#comment-5010 Thank you...awesome tips all. I am just adjusting to my fourth child, second daughter, second adoption...and being home 24/7 with all four this summer. I needed these words! Thank you…awesome tips all. I am just adjusting to my fourth child, second daughter, second adoption…and being home 24/7 with all four this summer. I needed these words!

]]> By: *Ashley Lou* http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/mondays-answers-tips-for-hard-days/comment-page-1/#comment-5009 *Ashley Lou* Mon, 21 Jun 2010 22:04:56 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2628#comment-5009 Thank you for these wonderful tips! I am so blessed to learn from those who have already made the trek through unchartered territory and these are going in my "What to do when I forget everything I learned before YOU got here" book! Thank you! Thank you! *Ashley Lou* PAP Thank you for these wonderful tips! I am so blessed to learn from those who have already made the trek through unchartered territory and these are going in my "What to do when I forget everything I learned before YOU got here" book!

Thank you! Thank you!

*Ashley Lou*
PAP

]]> By: OneThankfulmom http://www.onethankfulmom.com/attachment-and-trauma/mondays-answers-tips-for-hard-days/comment-page-1/#comment-5007 OneThankfulmom Mon, 21 Jun 2010 21:42:40 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2628#comment-5007 Angela, you are really in the trenches. We have been spared the poop issues, but I have friends who have dealt with that. Let me ask one of them to email you and see if she has some good advice to offer. Have you gotten advice from an experienced therapist? I have been a parent for 23 years and sometimes Deborah (the kids' therapist) will give us a tool that I never would have thought of on my own. Hang in there. Breathe deeply (except when dealing with poop), be sure to get some breaks, and find some small bits of joy in the midst of it all. Angela, you are really in the trenches. We have been spared the poop issues, but I have friends who have dealt with that. Let me ask one of them to email you and see if she has some good advice to offer. Have you gotten advice from an experienced therapist? I have been a parent for 23 years and sometimes Deborah (the kids' therapist) will give us a tool that I never would have thought of on my own. Hang in there. Breathe deeply (except when dealing with poop), be sure to get some breaks, and find some small bits of joy in the midst of it all.

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