This week’s Tuesday Topic comes from Renae:
I would love to hear from other adoptive parents about their experiences(and yours) with attachment…NOT the adopted child’s attachment, but THEIR attachment! I’m struggling a LOT to bond with my newly adopted daughter(she’s three)…I have 5 bio kids, so part of the problem is that I expected to feel that “ooey-gooey” baby love for her, and it wasn’t there! I’m on my knees daily, praying for the love to come, and I trust my LORD to finish what he started:)! Nevertheless, it has not been the happy ending I wanted or expected….never mind the fact that this child has NO attachment issues of her own that I have seen! She is attaching well to me and her Dad…NOT wanting others, etc…and is a very happy child so far(home only 6 weeks though)…this just adds to my guilt and shame…. Some days I do well…and some days I’m angry at everyone, including her!
I appreciate Renae’s honesty and her desire to hear from other adoptive parents. It is hard to admit that things are tough and that we are part of the problem. I’ve certainly experienced it myself. How about you? How did you work through it?
Please take a moment to share your thoughts. I will be on the road tomorrow, so I will begin approving comments on Wednesday.
Encourage one another,