Today we have a great Tuesday Topic question from Alyssa.
When your children have such a deep level of need, how do you balance outside activities and ministries? It seems like you (Lisa) are finding ways that you can connect with other families through your writing and speaking, and your husband is involved in some work in Africa. Do you have a process for how to decide how much time to give to these things?
I have stepped away from nearly all volunteer work since we adopted our son 1.5 years ago. My husband was on a school board and that was taking a lot of his time and energy but he’s recently finished that commitment. We just looked ahead at an event in December and decided that this year he wouldn’t help so he could be more available to our family on a busy weekend. We don’t regret these decisions, but I feel like our son has sort of a bottomless well of need and wonder when and if we will add more volunteering back into our schedules.
We’ve talked about organizing an adoption group in our church, but would the energy spent on that be worth it for us and others compared to giving that time and attention to our son (and his older siblings)?
I know God leads each family and there are seasons for things… I’m just wondering how others make these decisions in a balanced way?
Have you stepped away from commitments and activities since your child joined your family? How do you decide what to say “yes” to and what to leave out of your life? Russ and I have an ongoing discussion about this ourselves, and we are continually reevaluating our commitments.
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