Comments on: My Learning Curve: Restorative Sabbatical Part 1 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/adoption/my-learning-curve-restorative-sabbatical-part-1/ Honest reflections on the challenges and blessings of love. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 16:28:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: One Thankful Mom http://www.onethankfulmom.com/adoption/my-learning-curve-restorative-sabbatical-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-10571 One Thankful Mom Mon, 13 Sep 2010 17:13:39 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2649#comment-10571 Chris, I'm so glad you found my blog and now know another family that can understand your struggles. It is often lonely. I hope you and your husband can each get some sabbatical time and be restored. Thank you for leaving a comment. Chris, I'm so glad you found my blog and now know another family that can understand your struggles. It is often lonely. I hope you and your husband can each get some sabbatical time and be restored. Thank you for leaving a comment.

]]> By: Chris http://www.onethankfulmom.com/adoption/my-learning-curve-restorative-sabbatical-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-6083 Chris Mon, 13 Sep 2010 17:02:16 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2649#comment-6083 I'm new to reading your blog.....but it was timely to see the link to this post. We're in this space also, where it is really hard to enjoy not only parenting, but each other. In fact, if feels like I sometimes need to put the brakes off of "trying" to love everyone else so much, and pour all of that into myself for a time. Kids with attachment issues REALLY take their toll on us. I find myself with a lot of "if only's." The bottom line is that we do need to find the strength to keep on. I grew up with a strong spirituality, but my husband did not. He comes from a very "rational" family. This can be a rift at times (in addition to my mother-in-law, but that's another can of worms!) Thanks for the post....it's always good to know that we aren't alone. Chris I'm new to reading your blog…..but it was timely to see the link to this post. We're in this space also, where it is really hard to enjoy not only parenting, but each other. In fact, if feels like I sometimes need to put the brakes off of "trying" to love everyone else so much, and pour all of that into myself for a time. Kids with attachment issues REALLY take their toll on us. I find myself with a lot of "if only's." The bottom line is that we do need to find the strength to keep on. I grew up with a strong spirituality, but my husband did not. He comes from a very "rational" family. This can be a rift at times (in addition to my mother-in-law, but that's another can of worms!)

Thanks for the post….it's always good to know that we aren't alone.

Chris

]]> By: Andrea http://www.onethankfulmom.com/adoption/my-learning-curve-restorative-sabbatical-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-5323 Andrea Wed, 14 Jul 2010 15:44:34 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2649#comment-5323 I can't believe how timely this post is.... as I read it weeks after you posted it. :) I needed it today. My hubby and I are in this place...him in particular as he does not have the support group that I do...and even having it, after a while I just feel like a broken record of whine whine whine.... My hubby just said yesterday that we needed a break just us for a short time. Perhaps I will see what we can do to get that. Thank you for posting, thank you for being you, thank you for sharing your thoughts and your heart. So even when I can't get here daily to read, when I do, it's exactly what I need. Praying for you. I can't believe how timely this post is…. as I read it weeks after you posted it. :) I needed it today. My hubby and I are in this place…him in particular as he does not have the support group that I do…and even having it, after a while I just feel like a broken record of whine whine whine….
My hubby just said yesterday that we needed a break just us for a short time. Perhaps I will see what we can do to get that.
Thank you for posting, thank you for being you, thank you for sharing your thoughts and your heart. So even when I can't get here daily to read, when I do, it's exactly what I need. Praying for you.

]]> By: OneThankfulmom http://www.onethankfulmom.com/adoption/my-learning-curve-restorative-sabbatical-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-5240 OneThankfulmom Thu, 08 Jul 2010 05:10:10 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2649#comment-5240 Hilda, I can hear the fatigue in your words and I'm so thankful that you are going to get away with your husband. We had plans for a break last May, but one of our little ones wasn't doing well and we couldn't go away. We were so sad, but it was very clear that we couldn't leave. We are hoping for this fall. I hope you get wonderful sleep, solitude while your husband works, and lots of meaningful time with him. May the Lord bless your time and bring hope and healing to you. Hilda, I can hear the fatigue in your words and I'm so thankful that you are going to get away with your husband. We had plans for a break last May, but one of our little ones wasn't doing well and we couldn't go away. We were so sad, but it was very clear that we couldn't leave. We are hoping for this fall. I hope you get wonderful sleep, solitude while your husband works, and lots of meaningful time with him. May the Lord bless your time and bring hope and healing to you.

]]> By: Hilda http://www.onethankfulmom.com/adoption/my-learning-curve-restorative-sabbatical-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-5238 Hilda Thu, 08 Jul 2010 03:40:20 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2649#comment-5238 Thank you Lisa. This posting has left me in tears. I can so relate. I am so tired. We are back in therapy, but things are bad again. Five years is a long time. I need a sabbatical and I really need it with my husband. We have not had a night away in 12 years. Yes, 12 years. Too long especially for a couple who is dealing with a RAD child all the time. While I have two kids off at camp next week including my hard child, my mom has offered to come watch the others while my husband and I go away for a couple of nights. Yes, it is only in Kennewick and yes, he will have to work part of the time. But, I don't have to be mom for a few days and focus on getting myself and my hubby back to a good mindset and back to where we need to be as a strong couple. Parenting a RAD child is truly exhausting. Thank you Lisa. This posting has left me in tears. I can so relate. I am so tired. We are back in therapy, but things are bad again. Five years is a long time. I need a sabbatical and I really need it with my husband. We have not had a night away in 12 years. Yes, 12 years. Too long especially for a couple who is dealing with a RAD child all the time. While I have two kids off at camp next week including my hard child, my mom has offered to come watch the others while my husband and I go away for a couple of nights. Yes, it is only in Kennewick and yes, he will have to work part of the time. But, I don't have to be mom for a few days and focus on getting myself and my hubby back to a good mindset and back to where we need to be as a strong couple. Parenting a RAD child is truly exhausting.

]]> By: charity http://www.onethankfulmom.com/adoption/my-learning-curve-restorative-sabbatical-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-5226 charity Mon, 05 Jul 2010 17:36:08 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2649#comment-5226 thank you for your blog...i hope you will consider someday gathering all these posts into a book, we are still at the beginning of the process to bring home an older boy from the other side of the world...and i feel great relief when i see you are making it...we have 7 children already, the last still a toddler, and have homeschooled them all until recently. i wondered some days if anyone could really relate to what it feels like to be in this time of life and living the life we do, when the call comes from God. I know He is cutting the path, and we will walk it, joyfully...but I really feel much more at peace knowing this call is neither unique nor impossible...:) I was just telling my children that I know God answers their prayers and will help them find lost things, usually toys, or shoes...but I also know He helps us find lost things, like lost hope, lost faith, lost joy, lost pieces of ourselves, and the longer i live, the more i realize He has laid out the path before us to include restoration of all those lost things when we follow Him. So happy to hear the Light is returning to your family, you have been a lighthouse for me. thank you for your blog…i hope you will consider someday gathering all these posts into a book, we are still at the beginning of the process to bring home an older boy from the other side of the world…and i feel great relief when i see you are making it…we have 7 children already, the last still a toddler, and have homeschooled them all until recently. i wondered some days if anyone could really relate to what it feels like to be in this time of life and living the life we do, when the call comes from God. I know He is cutting the path, and we will walk it, joyfully…but I really feel much more at peace knowing this call is neither unique nor impossible…:) I was just telling my children that I know God answers their prayers and will help them find lost things, usually toys, or shoes…but I also know He helps us find lost things, like lost hope, lost faith, lost joy, lost pieces of ourselves, and the longer i live, the more i realize He has laid out the path before us to include restoration of all those lost things when we follow Him. So happy to hear the Light is returning to your family, you have been a lighthouse for me.

]]> By: OneThankfulmom http://www.onethankfulmom.com/adoption/my-learning-curve-restorative-sabbatical-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-5195 OneThankfulmom Fri, 02 Jul 2010 17:32:58 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2649#comment-5195 So much love, so much joy, so much work! Try to take care of one another. Your blog is looking beautiful! So much love, so much joy, so much work! Try to take care of one another. Your blog is looking beautiful!

]]> By: Given Much Mom http://www.onethankfulmom.com/adoption/my-learning-curve-restorative-sabbatical-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-5181 Given Much Mom Fri, 02 Jul 2010 11:52:20 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2649#comment-5181 Wow. I relate, I relate, I relate. Bless you for being so REAL. (((hug))) Wow. I relate, I relate, I relate. Bless you for being so REAL. (((hug)))

]]> By: Wendy http://www.onethankfulmom.com/adoption/my-learning-curve-restorative-sabbatical-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-5174 Wendy Thu, 01 Jul 2010 04:38:17 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2649#comment-5174 This is both an encouragement and a challenge to us at this point. My husband has such a heavy load with managing being a pastor, being employed full-time bi-vocationally, our farm, family, etc, etc...and we haven't even brought home our adopted daughter from Ethiopia yet! I'm headed to your 2nd post on this topic! Blessings upon your family.... This is both an encouragement and a challenge to us at this point. My husband has such a heavy load with managing being a pastor, being employed full-time bi-vocationally, our farm, family, etc, etc…and we haven't even brought home our adopted daughter from Ethiopia yet! I'm headed to your 2nd post on this topic! Blessings upon your family….

]]> By: OneThankfulmom http://www.onethankfulmom.com/adoption/my-learning-curve-restorative-sabbatical-part-1/comment-page-1/#comment-5135 OneThankfulmom Sat, 26 Jun 2010 03:14:24 +0000 http://www.onethankfulmom.com/?p=2649#comment-5135 Lori, I'll try to get the rest of the story up next week. I hope it is an encouragement to you and your husband. Hang in there - God is so much greater than we can ever imagine. He will never leave us or forsake us. Lori, I'll try to get the rest of the story up next week. I hope it is an encouragement to you and your husband. Hang in there – God is so much greater than we can ever imagine. He will never leave us or forsake us.

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